hi, SAHM does your mil ask you for money every month? she ask me for money every month when hubby gets pay. Hubby bring home merely $1.5k.. We are staying with ILs. She never fails to ask me to give money go my FIL every single month even when I told her that we are paying bank loan of $300 every month. Plus Minus expenses, we really have nothing left. So my parents always help me out by giving me money and all. But my parents never ask money from me before even though they help us every month. I feel that it is unfair if I give my ILs but not my parents.. What do you think?

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You mentioned u stay with the in-laws, but whose house does that belongs? If house are theirs n I think yr family shld help to pay something or give allowance. I believe yr own family can understand. If in-laws can help u looking after children, u can also look for job to help yr husband financially.

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4y ago

so you mean, if I stay with my parents, my ILs also should help my family to pay with something?

Why don't ask your MIL to ask from your husband instead?

I won't give to either sides. Like you said, you barely have enough. How to keep giving. Maybe just give token.

even if i'm working, i don't give both side of parents cause i told them i can't even sustain monthly with the amount of money combine wth my husband. They were understanding enough. so usually cny i give them a bigger red packet

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4y ago

yes.. thats my point.. I'm not able to maintain both sides.. so I do not want to give both sides.. most of the time I eat at my parents place, only back to IL home to sleep and wash clothes... but my mil don't seem to understand...

I am SAHM and I dont give my MIL money since I am no longer working. But to be fair to your in laws, they have provided you and your husband a place to stay thus it will be good if your husband is willing to make an effort to give a minimal sum of money. Do consider that if you were to rent from market or having own place, it's definitely much more expensive. Both set of your parents have contributed in their own ways it's not about fair or not fair though.

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4y ago

If its really tight up to this point, then ask your husband to speak to his mum about his limit either he give or dont give and see what your MIL says. Or a small contribution for utilities is good enough, cos cannot ignore that fact that they provide a place to stay.

Maybe she needs your input for the daily household expenses since you are staying together and assuming you are not paying rent.

My MIL is not staying with us. She got her own job but still ask for money from my hubby. 😅 i dont understand especially when she knows we need to save money for the hospital bills once i gvw birth. She even asked me to write down her bank details so it’ll be easier to give her $. So funny lol

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We can't avoid this. My in law use to ask $ from my husband every month, so I fix a figure and bank in their account. They will chase if $ is not credited on time 🤨

my in law only ask my husband.

Nope...