Need to understand men. Questions. Do you "report" to your Wife your whereabouts? Do you let her know if you're going home late? And tell her the reason why. Do you go drinking without telling? Do you work till very late go home just shower and sleep and skip talking to your Wife? Even though she's awake you just do your own thing. Is it married life about doing your own thing and I do mine? I know this is very common in married life. Communication break down. But is it too much to know his whereabouts? At least I won't be at home worrying right? He just don't get it and ask me to stop asking. He will only tell me coming home or going out. That's it. I feel sad for other women last time, now I feel sad for myself as I've never imagine this will happen to me. Ladies, please advise whether you all care so much? Will ask in detail what the Husband is doing? How you all managed to don't care at all?

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My hub usually will text me during lunch break n once he knock off, if he needs to OT he will too inform me. Most of the days we will ask each other how's ur day. But sometimes he reluctant t mention much cuz he feel I will not understand his job. Days that we nv talk about work we jus watch tv together Or play ps4. I allow my hub t go drinking w his buddies but most of the time he will ask me along. Married life shouldn't be each doing their own things marriage is a union of 2 person. Union meaning 2 or more coming together as one. Try initiating t talk t ur hub? Tell him how's ur day instead of waiting for him t tell you his?

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5y ago

It's good you and hubby still got activities to do together. Because my LO only wants me at night so many activities that I used to do with hub can't do it anymore. I can't go drink with him even if he invites me. Maybe because he gets to go anywhere he likes and I have to stay at home and take care of LO, I feel a bit unfair. And without a job, they became the center of my life. And always want to use this to quarrel with him because deep down I feel very imbalance. He doesn't want me to work and go out with friends. I hope things gets better when LO grows up. Let her go chase her daddy come home so mummy can rest.

Im working part time, so hub will msg me asking wat im doing or do i need him to get anythg on the way back. He will let me know if he is goin out wit the buddies.for me if he out fishing overnite he allow me to go out, usually i meet my family mum n sister. I also ask him tru watsapp if he coming or not. We keep each other update. I he overnite fishing he still call to ask abt the two lo. If i need to go meet dinner once a mth wit my gf i inform him n he will take care of the kiddoes. Usualy i restrict myself to n hr or two.

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My husband will always inform me if he is coming late due to meeting or business networking. I don't need to know where he is but I told him he need to stay contactable for emergency. My husband normally prefer to come back home for dinner so I will prepare dinner for him and let him catch up on his show for an hour before we talk about kids, his work or plan for weekend. Nowadays, my girls are bigger they are the one who will call their daddy to demand and know where and what is he doing. So I don't need to call at all. :-)

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5y ago

I must learn how to cook! Sounds like your Husband is quite a family-oriented person. Hope my LO faster learn how to talk, let her go pester her daddy. 😂

My husband will inform me when he knock off from work or working ot. He will let me know if he is going out with his friends. But the details I won't ask much. I just need to know where is he and what time he come home. As long as he is safe I am okay. Too busy taking care of my LO, I can't be bother too much about him like I used to when I don't have a baby. They can lie their where about and stuff, we won't know too. So, take it easy and don't let this affect your mood.

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5y ago

It does affect my mood greatly. Especially at night LO likes to look for him and he still don't want come back. Sometimes she cry and cry until I need to bring her down to wait for him. So I will keep finding out he coming back or not. Maybe he finds that very annoying.

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i will need to know where he will be. at least an area. i told him in terms of emergency lets say there is a bomb or fire. i will know if the area affected is where he is. As we have kids too, i will need to let him know if there is emergency do i wait for him to be back or i go first. yes my husband and i do have communication breakdown, sometimes due to parenting stress, once home, each of us does our own thing and sleep.

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5y ago

Sometimes he just plays and talks to baby but when he sees me his face changed and just do his own thing. I can feel he's like very irritated to look at me. So he just sleep and wake up faster prepare and go to work. We can stay like that for days. I'm staying at home look after LO and sometimes it do affects my mood.

I will always ask my husband about his whereabouts. He will also tell me where he going everything. When im awake, i will prepare his dinner when he came back and just go to sleep because its already so late for me to stay up. But he should at least make some time for you. Like sometimes my husband will come back early from work to accompany me..

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Communication especially in marriage or in any kind of relationship is one the factors to make it work. :) Being in you situation is normal, what is not normal is if don’t try to fix it.

my hubby will inform me if he is working OT or having dinner with his colleagues etc. i don't need to know his daily activity.

There is this app can life360, if both of you are comfortable.. Can install it and see your whereabouts real time

5y ago

Is it healthy to do this? Seem like no space and trust in between.

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My hubby will inform me beforehand.. And marriage is about communication.