Just need to rant~ I just had a quarrel with my husband. I am in my late pregnancy and we went for a walk with our dog. He is very strict to our dog so when he say no he means no and the dog today did not behave and he smack his backside and I don't feel good, I just keep quiet. When we reached home, he come to me and explain "the dog should be discipline when they are naughty" and he know I am kinda of not very happy about it. I told him" he used to be a nice attitude guy when I know him not the angry side of him." And he feel offended and say" now u regret married me already har? Now think I am very bad already is it? Then he say back to me u also used to be very chio why now like this lei?" Then he say "when people say it back to you, you will feel sad right. That how I feel when u say I used to be a nice attitude guy. What if next time baby is born and he is naughty you going to give it all to him and pamper him until he is like a king?" I reply him" is useless talking to you." I know what I say trigger him but I really did not know the impact until he say it back to me. I am a sensitive person but not when I talk. He ask me "am I feeling sad or angry because I did not talk." I say "no". Then he fall asleep and I can't stop crying and feeling sad. So I wake him up and say" I feel so hurt about the last time chio now why like this" he then wake up and say "do u mean I have a bad attitude when u say it to me?" I reply "no, I don't mean it" then he says "that's right I also never mean it" he then say " you hor, say people can la, when people say you back you cannot take it hor." I don't know is it hormones or what I just feel weird and sad and can't stop crying. Sorry for the long post.

Oh dear I want to cry reading this post. I feel you so much. ☹️ I’m in my 2nd trimester and have not gained more weight than I already am. I am plus sized by the way. But there was one time we were randomly talking about clothes and he said “Go and buy maternity clothes lah.” So I said it’s not easy cause my body size is not proportionate. He said “Just stop wearing those peplum/baby doll type of tops. Makes you look even more bigger.” Then I said, “You so bad, say your wife like that.” And he casually just said, “Don’t deny, isn’t it true? You think you’re slim?” I took it straight to the heart man. Straight to the heart. It pierced me so much I wanted to cry but because I am so good at putting up a facade, I held back my tears and bit on my tongue. Sometimes we don’t realise the words that come out of our mouths can hurt others. Especially now that the hormones are raging, we are extra sensitive to everything. What I can say is probably we just have to take it like a big girl, brush it off and screw them under our breath. No I mean try not to take it to heart, cause they’re just plain and useless remarks. One day they will realise the sacrifices we made for them, just probably, probably these pea-brained idiots don’t realise it yet. We got you, Mummy. You’re not alone with a salty Husband. 💪🏻

Firstly, during pregnancy and first few months after birth, your hormones will go haywire and you feel down and sad for no reason easily. Let him know about it, because you need even more of his support and love during this period. For me, I apologized to my hubby in advance first, in case I said anything offensive or insensitive :-) 2nd, I think you are just like me, what my hubby says, I'm not tactful in my words. Sometimes I don't give a thought first before I speak and sensitive people get offended easily even when I felt it wasn't at all offensive. We are all different and our sensitivity level also different. But you should know your husband well right? And he you too. That moment, he could also be just stressed up before blurting out. I'm sure he's not like that all the time right? On your side, just take it as a learning path, remind yourself to take note of what you say each time because really, one day, it may not be him that is upset. It could be a client or boss or somebody and we'll get into bigger trouble. Husband is like a teacher and we learn from each other. Don't let it affect you, because his comment definitely didn't mean anything, I'm sure.

Hey, u r in ur last trimester alrdy. Cheer up! The way guys talk, they can be very direct which can hurt alot esp when u r pregnant. My hubby hurts me wif his words too esp during my pregnancy. Maybe ur hubby had seen many children misbehaving n he does not wan ur child to be like tat. So i think he is preparing himself to be more strict to be able to teach ur child when he is born. We also hv to be sensitive & mindful of wad we say to men as they can be sensitive too. If u mean alot to him, he will be hurt when u say smth which sounds hurtful to him. (I'm also sensitive when it comes to my hubby's words, so i was trying to understand why it hurts so much when they say such things to us.) Sometimes, we do not know tat wad we say can hurt men too. Try to change e way we talk to them. Be positive when u talk to him. U will realise tat he will slowly be influenced by u & will be happier & will talk nicely to u. He is stressed too. Y dun u try to think tat he is preparing to be a gd father? For e sake of ur child, try ur best to stay cheerful? It affects e baby too if u r feeling sad. Talk to someone if need to ok? Or juz rant here oso can!

Hi mummy, I have a dog too and we smack her all the time. There's nothing wrong with that because we need to jolt them away from bad behavior. As for chio or not, it's normal for a pregnant lady to look tired, sluggish or not like last time. We are not celebrities with an entire glam squad behind us. Health of you and your baby is more important. I didn't mention hormones because I hate it when people put the blame there (although it might be true). It's the same as you are angry and your man said your period is coming. It agitates me. 😇 Cheer up for the arrival of your baby!

Its the hormones, i get very sensitive and teared very easily over little things as well..especially when we are also very conscious about how we look, such comment can easily hurt us..hang on there. Whatever happen make sure you share with your husband and thrash things out after that, man be less sensitive to words but im am sure they dont always mean it. If not share with your friends or just rant here, most importantly remember u are not alone. You are on your last lap, jia you and try your best to stay positive. Mummies are all very strong, u can do it!

Yeah words do hurt and especially will get sensitive especially during pregnancy. Seems like your husband seems stressed about coping with fatherhood soon and gets short tempered with the dog, but i'll give him the credit that at least he made the effort to explain why he disciplined the dog. Both of you have to apologize, made up and all will be good :)

Hi dear, i hope You are feeling better now. Sometimes what we say can trigger others. Especially after along tiring day moreover now that you are in your third trimester im sure it is not easy. Its not easy for daddys too :) as it gets nearer, anxiety builds up as well. Do not be so hard on yourself. Hormones play a part as well. :) cheer up and let it cool down.

I think your hubby went abit too far to insult your looks just to state his point. Especially his Wife is pregnant... if he want to live well he better don't insult your looks! Tsk! These men! Tell him that what he said about you exactly proves your point! That He is not acting nice! And not to insult your looks because you are pregnant with this child!

Your hubby is really mean!!! He should never ever said anything bad about how you look. You’re carrying his baby!!! You already sacrifice ok!! He should be thankful for you.

Darling your are in your end trimester. Don't let such things stress you out. You deserve to enjoy your time now