Advice.. Ranting

I'm 5mths pp but I'm still very emotional. i hate the fact my mil forces me to stay with them as her thinking is those traditional type - Girl marry already cannot stay with her parents. If her son stays with my family it's a degrading issue. I'm not happy at my in law house, yes they r nice. my mil is overly helpful, at times is fine esp when I've things to do but when i free it feels like I've no bonding time with my lo. mil is too attached to my baby.. Once in a blue moon, I'll seek permission to whether i can come back to my place and stay. my mil will show black face.. and when I'm back at my place, my baby is always crying n fussy even with my parents. it hurts just bc my baby doesnt recognise my family or home.. but it brings my mil joy to know this. and thinking or witnessing all this happening, I'll just break down and cry.. my MIL is selfish and wants my baby all to herself. and my husband ever tried talking to her about this, all she did was get defensive and show attitude and even complain to her husband bout me feeling unhappy. i just dont know what to do... i know if i want to stay at my home permanently, my mil will cause a big problem for everyone

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You have the right to bring yourself anywhere. Be firm and say that you have the right to visit your own family. Let her be salty it is your right. You have done so much already by staying with your MIL. Are you getting your own house soon? Hope u can be patient till you have your own house. Be strong mummy!

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Your life is yours and not owned by your mil. Be very clear with your boundaries and they need to respect it. All these should be done in a firm but respectful attitude towards your mil. What’s the point of crying? You need to take action.