I think i am very irritated and annoyed with me mum. She is kind of possessive towards my no1. Whenever we carry no1, somehow she will snatch it away from us and said that baby doesnt want to be with us, especially when baby whines/just cry, she will immediately snatch the baby away. Sometimes she even show me black faces for making baby cry. I feel like wth. At times she can for nth, make baby cry thinking that when baby cries are very cute, then thereafter tried to pacify baby and said like grandma loves you. Mum kinda show like she is the parent of my no1 rather than us. Hubby already feeling kind of pek chek. Im stucked in between i also dono what can/should i do. Jus feeling very frustrated at times.

My mom or mil did not snatch my babies from me. But sometimes when I place them in the yaolan, they will say babies not ready to sleep yet and so they will carry babies up and then say to the babies that daddy and mummy are “very bad..ah Ma is better...” This behaviour pisses me off but I just take it in cos I know that ultimately they have good intentions for the babies. I am also confident that my babies know that daddy and mummy are good to them (we spend time bonding with them whenever we can) so there is no need for any ill feelings towards my mum or mil.

Like you said it's your no.1, it's also her first grandchild. Yes everyone will be pretty possessive when it comes to the first child of the family and even first grandchild of the family. She as a grandmother def want to show love but without knowing she has 'offended' you with her actions. Sit down have a good talk with her. She is your mother after all. Slowly talk to her and tell her how you felt with all her actions done. Hang in there. I been thru that. it gets better after awhile.

Since it’s your mom, best to speak to her about it... I understand how that feels because my mom would take LO from us when she cries & my husband was upset with that because he wants to be hand-on with our child and not having my mom be possessive over our baby. After speaking to my mom, things got so much better... And I now realize, having a child is not just for me and my husband but the entire family village will want to have their lives in hers too. Jiayou! :)

my mum behaves the same way too because she loves her grandson. but I'm not comfortable when she snatched away my son from me before i pacify him when he cried out loud. it happened several times until I can't stand it n told her nicely that she has to let me handle myself so in future I can do it better when I'm alone. n it has improve. she didn't rush over when my son cried out loud.

I cant tahan possessiveness , if my in law or parent were to do that, i will make my stand very clear or they dont get to their grandchild again

Take it with positivity! First grandchild, everyone in the family would be possessive. Think about others who may not have any grandparents.

You need a third party to make things better . Find a family specialist . Don’t be the middle person , it’s not gonna be easy .

Tell her where the line is and do not cross it. She is just a relative now. Let her know

That's ur child. Tell her not to Cross the line and know where she stand.

Ur mum over possessive. Guess u hv to be firm with her