I think I have some issues with myself. My husband , my son and me are staying with my family waiting for our bto to be ready. My husband family we seldom see each other maybe one month once or even not meeting them until occasion. But I really dislike my husband second sister who she is more close with. I have to idea why I dislike her. My husband mother had pass away since he was young and his sec sister he Wil treat her as his mother. But I really dislike her when she msg or call my husband all that. The problem is me, I want my husband to love me only and only care for me. I know i am selfish but I can't help to be like this. I don't know how to deal with my thinking and I feel I am being very not mature enough to think. But I really don't know what is wrong with me. I always quarrel with him whenever his sister called up or msg him. I had family too and I had a sister too. But I really don't know why I am acting like this. I even want to divorce with him because of his sister. I think I am crazy for making a big fuzz over stupid stuff. I hate myself. How can I help myself? I know i had jealousy issue too.. I feel terrible for being myself.

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well, I tot I m the only one with issue like such.. I kinda envy my sil for having such gd life for her life.. always got ppl pamper her, her husband pamper n dote on her, occasionally giving her surprises.. now after giving birth, go back after maternity leave, work a short time, now stay home mum.. still can buy this n that.. she nv have to worry abt financial.. whereas my husband n me r working so hard for our lives n for our daughter.. when she need help, then she look for my husband, otherwise she seems proud.. some of my friends say her eyes is above her head.. n she is gd in cookery & baking.. I feel so inferior, especially I'm older than her 5-6 years... how can I stop myself from envying her?

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Me too, my sil and bil keep having a good life, they nv saving for future, keep enjoying and spent alot. When offday stay at home, they will ON the aircon 24hours never shutdown even they coming out from the room for a long hours. My husband need to pay for the electricity fee every month. They even never pay me when i help them buy their personal stuff 🙄 Hope my BTO coming soon, so can get rid this faster 🙄

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It's normal to feel jealous and possessive. But i guess I would say just don't be obsessive. See it from your husband's point of view. Maybe try spending time with the sister? Get to know the "enemy" so to speak. And you might discover why your husband loves her dearly and you might even appreciate those same qualities. Family is family - and I think it's a good sign that the sister has a good relationship with your husband, so she'll be a good ally to have around when the going gets tough like if your husband gets sick and you need someone to help you take care of him.

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I won't say you are having problem. Probably you are unable to think in your husband shoes. He didn't had a mother which he could lean on. He only had a sister. So his sister felt like his mother. Don't see it as his sister. See it as His mother instead. Yes its perfectly understandable that you are jealous afterall it's still another woman.

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Hey dear it's okay. We often have many irrational and not logical emotions. Don't beat yourself up. Most I.importantly you are not crazy for feeling this way. Give yourself sometime.

Hugs...like the mom above said. I agree with her why not try to tell yourself that he sees her as a mother. After all she is the only one he has to lean on.

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I think you're feeling kinda insecure? have a good chat with your husband, might helps (:

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You gotta let it go. Let it go.

Talk to him. So he knows.