My friend's husband is constantly shouting at her (regardless of location). Her husband can just shout at her inside a crowded supermarket or mall. My friend temper is not that good so when things are not in her way, she might showing black face to her husband, then her husband will shout at her saying "I hate you like this! I think we cant get along, we cant go out together! I think we are not suitable" My friend is very sad as she thought her husband should be able to know her temper, but seems like her husband cant accept the whole of herself. What should she does?
Sounds like there's a lot of grievances going on. To embark on a marriage, both should have come to an acceptance of behaviors and attitudes. Compromising will one day cause a major disagreements and that's to the fault of both parties. One keeps pushing in wits and the other willingly accepts be it in anger or annoyance. Knowing there is an anger issue here, one who keeps pushing the other to limits and when the receiver retaliates it causes more unhappiness. Both sides are at play for the outcome of today. It takes two hands to clap. Men and women have pride and ego but be reasonable and not witty. Identify the problem, sit down and reflect on yourself: what efforts have you made to keep this marriage like the way you envisioned to be, have you swayed from your priorities and duties in the marriage and lastly, what have you done to yourself and spouse to bring and develop the best out of each other. Once you have sorted yourself out, sit the other party down and have a heart to heart talk; just the two of you. Remember it takes 2 hands to clap. It takes two to make a union and it takes a union to make the marriage last.Read more
I think both parties need to tone down their temper. seems like the husband's temper is not very good too. I have a couple friend who is like this too. The woman was very bad tempered last time but her husband is as well. So a lot of conflicts. That's why these days I think maybe opposites can complement each other well. The lady tone down her temper a lot these few years because keep quarreling and also mention divorce many times. But for the sake of kids she felt she need to change. Even though we are supposed to accept each other for who we are but it doesn't harm for us to improve on certain areas. Does your friend still love her husband? If yes why don't she try to control her temper more and also get her to tell her husband that she is making efforts and that her husband must be patient to let her slowly change. The husband must also learn to be more patient and tolerant. It takes two hands to clap. If both love each other and kids are involved they should try to compromise and change their behaviourRead more
both side need to sit down and have a proper talk. My husband doesn't like my black face either but i will try not to show him cause i know he WILL shout at me just like how your friend situation is. I try my best to control. after all things like argument are best kept at homeRead more
Counseling. Frankly, u not good temper or show black face - u should know it's coming. We cannot change others. We can only change ourselves. And as a couple also change and learn how to quarrel properly like behind close doors and how to resolve it
I suggest for both parties to take a step back and have a cool down period. try going for marriage counselling. it maybe helpful.
please try marriage counseling. shouting isn't healthy.
Did they get married very soon after courting ?
It's best to seek professional intervention.
Have they tried marriage counselling?