How do you care for your baby on your own?

Hi working mummies! Due to space constraints, I’m seriously considering taking care of my baby on my own till I go back to work. Currently we are staying at my in laws and we have a part time helper who does housework. I’m not expecting my in laws to help with taking care of baby. MIL & SIL work and FIL is not so mobile. May I check with mummies who managed to take care of your baby wo any confinement lady or helper for tips? I’m 3 months to my EDD now. Feeling the anxiety kicking in cos I’m really unsure how I can manage as a FTM. :( I’m wondering if I can just try my best to cope and when I go back to work, i can get a day care nanny to take care of my baby. Cos of the space constraints, I doubt a helper would be an option.

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Super Mum

My husband helped me. I strongly recommend getting catered food during the first month because it’ll be very tiring snd your body is still recovering. I ordered from Richfood catering (Nouriche). It’s definitely not impossible to take care of your baby on your own. My advice would be to not be hard on yourself, especially when things are tough. Not enough breastmilk? Just top up with a little formula. Feeling sad about being cooped up at home? Just bring baby out of your house for a little walk. Really tired at night? Ask your husband for help. Having trouble breastfeeding/transitioning to bottle? There’re people who offer training and consultations for both. Essentially, do your best while setting realistic expectations for yourself, and don’t pressurise yourself to make everything perfect. I put too much pressure on myself to hit all my targets for my first child. Looking back, I feel a bit silly. Heh. My child grew up well, despite the difficulties I had, and the imperfections. Your baby will love you no matter what, so I hope you will find motherhood fulfilling and experience joy:)

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I didnt have a confinement nanny, but my mum stayed at my place during the first month, only on weekdays. So second month on, i singlehandedly care for my baby during the day, until my husband comes back from work in the evening, then i can take a short breather cus i dont want to tire him so much after a day's work. It is tough esp during the newborn period as everything was overwhelming, getting to learn about baby's needs, pumping, housechores, food, etc. I can share some tips with u but bear in mind that every baby is diff so this was some of the things which i did that kind of helped me. Be ahead of time as in wake up super early before baby is up for the day and get urself ready (shower, coffee etc). Have a rocker, playmat with soft toys where u can put baby down to entertain baby when need to. Swaddle baby during naptimes. I gave baby pacifier too esp when baby was really cranky and i needed my sanity. As i was exclusively pumping, i bought 2 sets of pump parts, i had a schedule for my pumping. Ahh so many, it was really tough, but as baby grows, it gradually gets better.

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Your husband has 2 weeks of Paternity leave & you can give him the other 2 weeks of your maternity leave. The harder period to actually take care of your LO is when the stitches has not heal. Get your husband to help up during the 1 month confinement. MIL & SIL might actually be willing to help look after your LO when they end work ! Once your LO has reach 2 month you can enrol him/her to the infant care. The rest of your maternity you can split it up within the 1 year of your LO birth for vaccination or emergency purposes or when you feel like you need a break form work 😛

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I've csec and I take care my baby by my own from the day he's born till 4th month I engaged confinement nanny for day care but she don't help much and I terminate her service on 3rd month Prepare extra thing ie clothing, milk bottles so that you can focus on taking care baby when he's awake or cry. It can be frustrated if u need to wash bottle or breast pump part when u need it urgently to prepare milk when baby is hungry and crying for milk, so planning and time management also important I believe you can do it 💪with your hubby's help

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Dont stress on house work. Priority is baby. Solve your food problem, get people to help you buy food, cook food or order confinement food for the 1st month. Eat well than can have milk supply. Dont stress on milk supply, if have you provide, if dont have use formula. Routine = Change Diaper, feed baby, baby sleep, baby bath. Stayby a place for baby to sleep use a cot. Set up diaper change station. Set up milk station, if on formula. A Bathing tub.

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Hihi! I'm in the same situation as you! I'm nearing my edd in June and I plan to take care of my first child myself! MIL and FIL will not be helping due to family issues although I'm staying with them hahaha. Hubby will be in charge of cooking and washing clothes during his free time while I just focus on resting my body and baby. Food wise I ordered confinement soup!(: Hope this helps in supporting you emotionally! I can share with u resources if u need!(:

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2y ago

All the best to you too!

im a ftm at 22yo n i took care of my lo myself. i didn't get any nanny during confinement, i only ordered confinement food catering. first few weeks will be tough for you bc you have to adjust your sleep schedule to your baby's but as long as you take as many naps as you can with baby you'll be fine!! to me the only challenge i face while caring for my lo is bathing her, so usually i wipe her until my mother helps to bathe her

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The first 2 weeks i received help mainly from my husband. All i did was to feed my lo milk. He’ll then take over from there so that i have sufficient rest to recover. Before he resume work, i learnt from him how to change diaper, burp the baby etc. From then its a mother instinct. We youtube whatever we dont know and learn from there. Be prepared and read up in advance so that you know what to expect. Never panic!

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Super Mum

My mom was here for my confinement but my husband and i prefer to take care of baby on our own so we pretty much did everything ourselves. Got catered confinement meals from Tian Wei Signature. After confinement i took care of bubs alone during the day, husband helped at night after work. Now that I've returned to work, we sent bubs to infant care. FTM here too. It is possible, dont stress yourself too much!

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took care of my confinement and baby myself, on top with house chores and all. staying with bf's brother so im basically taking care of extra people, which i dont mind haha manageable if you plan out your timr right. its tiring but fulfiling to raise your own baby without external help, IMO haha do ask from your husband for help bc not gonna lie, super tiring 😬 jiayous mummy take care 🥰

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