Reunion dinner

My side the husband's family always takes precedence - you had been married out of the family, you have joined your husband's family now. My parents are also quite respectful of the fact they have a married daughter and always organize "reunion dinner" 1-2 weeks before CNY eve so there's no clashes.

Take turns. Odd years in-laws place, even years own parents place. Or whoever have a more interesting program wins my vote. My husband and I dislike his cousin coming to my in-laws place uninvited so if it happens, we're off to my parents place. No face given even though it's my in-laws.

My MIL doesn’t even know how to cook, and she don’t have that tradition to have reunion as one family. Which is good I just need to go to my family.

It's impossoble. If it's really the same time, I would try to go for one for a while, then the other. Half half.

either 1 for lunch 1 for dinner. or choose one side. can't be split urself into 2 ma

Simple gather both families tgt to reunion. That’s what I do usually

Try and arrange to attend one of the dinners at an earlier time slot

Take turn. I'll spend about 1 hour at each dinner

Both side also don't go Own reunion at home

One go for lunch one go for dinner. No choice