Drifting apart after parenthood

My husband was exactly like that. I called my mom and my mom told me a trick she used when my dad was not hands on at the beginning and it worked for her. She told me to always praise my husband no matter how badly he’s done and always tell him that baby loves him the most etc. Try to let him find the passion within himself instead of nagging him. This trick works for me too. My husband is very hands on now and he’s very proud to be a hands on father.

It's common among man nowadays. But for me, instead of waiting for him to come lend a helping him, i would rather just tell him straight that i need help. Guys are not as sensitive as we women are, so maybe try giving him clear instruction or letting him know that you actually need help is great. Because you did mention that before the helper came along, he was more handson, so im assuming he thinks that you have enough help already.

Thank you all for your empathy & helpful tips - feels great to be able to share with the community here. I’ll try out all your advice. In this day and age, Dads should be more hands on and proactive - parenting is a joint responsibility, they should not be thinking that they are “helping the mums”. I need a partner to shoulder the responsibilities not a grown man child to take care of! 😪🤣

Takes time for Husband to slowly get into the role of being a Father. Encourage him along the way. They will feel appreciated and will do more for you and baby. That’s what I did to my Husband. And now he basically enjoy bathing and reading to our Son. Hope it helps!

This is sad, but does happen. Try chatting with your hubby and telling him how you feel. Set aside some personal adult time, as well as some family time in an environment whereby you need to interact (e.g. a walk around the Botanic Gardens). I wish you well

Sorry to hear that you are going thru all these. Have a talk with your hub and let him know how you feel.. hope he will try to put in more efforts

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Sit down, relax and communicate with your hubby. Sometimes guys they didn't think as much as women.

My Husband is totally like that as well

Just keep remind him u need his help..