Can't Afford To Attend Weddings
Random rant.. Anyone feeling guilty of consciously avoiding to attend weddings in Singapore just because of the high sum expected from ang paos?? Just feels silly and sad to me that we are looking for all affordable options for baby items like 2nd hand items for our 1st bub, but then going for 1 wedding already burns few hundreds from our pockets! Maybe only attend weddings of really really close friends and family... Then again, ppl talk and there's the guilt trip.. Sigh
I feel you. people will always think whatever they want anyway... They don’t know our situation fully. If you feel like after going you’re going to be tight on your pockets, then it’s okay to not go for those you’re not so close with. For close relatives and family, they should be able to understand your situation and not expect too much..
Read moreYou go when you can and only attend close frie nds and family and give within your means.at least you go and actually wedding not a money making event.if relative and friends see you differently for hongbao they are not worth to contact anymore
When I'm invited to a wedding, I still shamelessly go (alone), and gift an angbao that is within my means. If the bride/groom is going to be sensitive about the amount, I don't think that person is worth remaining friends with.
As for me malay wedding, $10-$20 is fine per couple. Cos if u are invited, and u dont attend, it will be wastage of food and again the bride and groom has alrd paid for the intended pax of ppl attending and food catered.
I hear you ... But at e end of the day your relatives and close friends should understand that when you attend their wedding it is a sign of celebration and love , they should not treat it as some money making event.
Knowing that hotel weddings cost anywhere from $2000 and up, even double this per table, I don't have the heart to attend and gift anything lower than what our seats costs.. Thus in a way shortchanging the couple :(
I feel you. When I on down time ppl keep throwing bomb over I try to reject I even told them I got financial issue but if they insist wan i attend den I go with a minimum of $50 ☺️☺️☺️
No wrong if u can't go.. But have the curtesy to tell the bride n groom early first.. At least they find someone to fill ur space. And just come out with an excuse not to go :)
it's ok, I think thats what rspv are for, at least you told them already that u cannot come, better than u said u can come but not coming 😉
Dont feel guilty. Ppl can say anything they want. They dont knw the hardship of others. Just attend weddings of your closest ones
I only attend weddings where I'm close to them. Not close ones I will reject. Nothing to be paiseh about when u reject.
