New Daddy's Woes!

My wife just gave birth one month ago and I feel like I don't have a life anymore! I want my guys' night out and soccer time with my buddies. Everything is about the baby now. Is this it for me? How do I tell my wife I need some me time without upsetting her?

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there is no more 'me time' for mummy darling. being a father need sacrifice as your baby need more attention ss your wife. you may have discuss with your wife about having me time for you and your wife as well. maybe, you can go for soccer for weekend while you wife taking care of baby. and on another day, you may take a chance to take care of your baby and ask your wife to go out with her friend as well. so, its fair enough for your wife. or bring her out to shopping while you carry the baby while she enter the shop.

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I don't mean to offend you sir. But i think you're not ready yet to become a father. Coz if u were ,you could have thought of "not getting a life" thing before you made your wife pregnant. You could have seen that coming. I understand that you need a TIME OUT from all the diaper changing and baby stuff but have you ever heard your wife complain about it? Had she ever asked for a time out or day off? It's sad to know that you're only thinking about your LIFE back.

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Welcome to the world bro. First. Congratulations on your first baby. Second. Congratulations again Finalky, no time to adjust to your me ME time. Di mo na need ng ‘me’ time bro. Basically tatlo na kayo. Focus ka nga sa kid and partner mo. Need ka na nila ngayon. And need mo din sila. Yung friends mo, kug friend mo sila. Sila yung mag aadjust para sa iyo, kasi iba na priority mo. Jan na kayo sa bahay nyo mag celebrate. Hindi na outside. Case closed. Again, congrats sa inyo. Sa atin lahat.

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Lol. Imagine your wife have to give up everything, to give birth to a baby. whatever she used to do in the past has changed. and it's only a month yet you're already complaining? Then in th first place you shouldn't make her pregnant. and it's not the end for you, wait till your child gets older. You can tell your wife about it and let you have some ME time, provided that you give her ME time too. there will be chances of her getting post natal depression! so Your support plays a very big part.

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Haha welcome to fatherhood,bro. Didn't you think about this before you had a child? The first year will be tough and remember it's not just the LO you need to take care of, it's your wife as her body will have gone through many changes in the past year and she will need support here. If this really is too much for you, try and pick one night a week where you can play football with your friends but make sure you are back home by a reasonable time and then do the night's work!

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Hello , it’s very normal that you won’t have your life anymore because this is the life you wanted . I supposed no one forced you into parenthood unless otherwise ? Feel free to let us know if you were forced into this so we will understand and offer other advise . Btw i believe your wife will need more time time to enjoy herself after 9 months of pregnancy and severe pain while giving birth . It’s okay to feel that way but don’t let it get over you and leave your wife and baby alone .

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it's always difficult during the first few weeks. Your wife will definitely need alot of your support emotionally right now. if you have someone who can help you take care of her while you take a breather, I don't see why not. communication is very important, let her know that you will.always be there for her whenever she needs you, but do let her know that you would like to take some time off to yourself too. communicate, and also, let her speak out how she would like you to be included for baby.

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This is the time for you to actually have some ‘me time’ with your wife. Not only you soothe your wife’s fatigue from the delivery, you are also helping her with all-first-times. First born baby, first time diapers change, first time in your whole life getting only 2 hours of sleep. The first times! Don’t let your wife do everything by herself. Ya sure, your/her parents are helping. But a parent’s touch and care can’t defeat a husband’s love and care. Trust us mommies.

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This is what we call a selfish husband! Dude, don’t you think that your wife is making a huge sacrifice for you. Being a parents is about a teamwork. If you are not comittment enough to handle your baby and wife, then you might have a problem. As much as you want a guy night, don’t you think that your wife want some “me-time” for her too. Discuss this matters carefully with your wife. Talk to her. She might understand and ofcourse you must think wisely. Be mature as you are a dad now.

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You do have a life with your wife and newborn baby and it's a great one! Enjoy this season of bonding with your child because it's only for a short time. Tell your wife honestly about your feelings. But your guy's night out & soccer time have to take the last priority. The needs of your wife & child come first. Unless you have a trusted babysitter on a weekend, then even your wife can have a girl's night out to recharge & unwind for a few hours.

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