New Daddy's Woes!

It's been just a month and you already want to go out. good. but did you think for once that more than you, this is about the mom and the baby? she who had to change so many things about herself while she was pregnant and even now for months to come, if not years. if you are already feeling as if your life is over, i suggest you sit down one day and talk to her. and for a change, why not take the baby and take all responsibility for a day, just a day, and let her take a day off? up for it?

Maybe your wife is feeling the same thing, imagine after being pregnant, giving birth post partum recovery while breastfeeding and taking care of you and your baby, imagine what and how is she feeling right now. You both need a break, try to ask for your parents or in laws to step in and baby sit for a couple of days so that the both of you can have a breather. Talk to your wife about it, I'm pretty sure she's also anticipating that much awaited break.

Can have a talk to your wife about how you feel but at the same time please also understand and care about your wife's feeling as she can be very tiring taking care of baby and she also needs me-time too occasionally. Personally, I think once (few hours to half a day each time) a month me-time is acceptable. Nowadays almost all parents are working, majority of their time already dedicated to work therefore please cherish every family bonding time whenever you can.

things can be really difficult with a newborn in the house. i can understand how both you and your wife must be tired and stressed. why not talk to her and take one day to yourself, where you can go and meet your buddies? also, as soon as she is up for it, tell your wife that you will help bottle feed the baby for 1 or 2 days in the week, and she can go out, or take time off for herself. this will help you both stress less and enjoy the experience too.

You feel like you don't have a life anymore? Do you think your wife haven't ask that question for herself too? Worst for her because she has to put all things behind because she has a baby now... you gave her a baby so you need to be with her no matter what! This is the time that she needs you bad because taking care of your baby isn't that easy. Your life is your wife and your baby now and be happy of what you had this time. Go out with your family..

Your wife, as you said, just gave birth only A month ago. She needs all the help she can get, especially from you, her husband. May it be physical help or moral support. I know it's hard for you, too. But you must remember that rearing a child is not only a mother's responsibility. It includes a father. Your child needs you. Enjoy the moments while yours is still little. Soccer can wait. Maybe until the time she recovers fully. :)

As a mom of a 14-month boy, I assure you that caring for a newborn is easy-peasy. Once your baby is mobile and can walk, you need to keep your attention on him all the time. But based on your problem, talk to your wife about your issues. Marriage is not only a give-and-take but it also means sacrifices and compromises. Maybe both of you can have a "me-time" by asking your in-laws to take care the baby or by having a baby-sitter.

it's just one month and you're feeling this. Your wife has been pregnant for 9 months and gave birth to an angel, her body underwent a huge transformation, her belly stretches and now left with marks, boobs swollen and physically+mentally exhausted. What about her me time? Once baby is around 1 year old everything will be better. There are sacrifices to make. Hang on there and be there for her.

You have to realize that your wife is also still adjusting with her new respondibilities, you never know but I experienced PPD for two months. Your wife needs you to be there for her. she needs to feel your support, she needs you to comfort her. Giving birth isn't an easy thing to go through. I hope you understand what I mean. Your friends can wait, but you have to prioritize your wife and your baby NOW.

you dont have the right to complain..mas mahirap ang buhay namin as a wife specially sa pinagdaanan pagbbuntis...wala din naman social life ang wife mo..kailngan mo maging responsible husband and father dpat nagenjoy ka na non binata ka pa ibang iba ang buhay ng may asawa at anak sa buhay binata..and sna din ndi ka na lng din nagisip mag settle down kung mas mahalaga sau ang mga nightout at friends mo kaysa sa binuo mo pamilya..