Can i ask any of your husband give you mummies money even you yourself is working? My husband dont .. no matter how much he earn, he doesnt give me money. Even buy things for lo, he doesnt even give money. Expect me to pay myself for our lo things..
No.He doesn't give me any money.even i stay at home for take care kids. Buy lo stuff even groceries, sometime i buy myself because i earn from selling online. For my personal things buy make up,toiletries,going saloon when New years. i never get a single cents from him. i feels like treated unfair as wife 😔Read more
Ya same. All he does is just then rental of the flat and utility bills. Like 2 bills only. And i have to use my own salary to buy lo's monthly milk, diapers etc. And even household stuff also i buy.. ever since i have our lo, i didnt buy any stuff for myself at all. New year, i just bought 1 dress and a pair of shoes for myself thats all. But he can spend afew $100 on himself for clothes.. all he think is my money is my money . His money is his money. So i have to use my own money to buy whatever thing and he can keep his money...
my ex hub doesnt give me allowance for household, let alone give my mom money cause we are staying under my parent's roof and bills on my dad and moreover my mom is taking care and paying groceries for my kids.. i told him u zillion times of money issue but always reply stuff like he bring us out to eat and note that he is like not doing it 3 or 4 times a month and yes he does pay for lo stuff and i have 2 kids.. he pay like 1/3 of sch fees and i 2/3.. diapers not always he buy.. sometimes me or him.. baby wipes also.. milk powder for elder ones also my mom buy.. so i think is ur hub should at least helps to pay for lo stuff.. then what does he spend money on u exactly?Read more
My husb only pay 2 bills and nothing else. Lo's stuff all i purchase using my own money.. my salary is low. Once i purchase lo's stuff and settle my bills, i only left for like monthly food.. i cant get anything for myself or even pamper myself at all. Household stuff also i buy.. ask for money, always give one face.. even weekend he doesnt even bring us out for good food.. all we does is mix with in law for dinner everytime. So that my husband dont hve to pay a cent..
i feel that this has to be educated. i used to be earning near double of what my husband is earning but still i will split accordingly and sometimes i will ask him to buy things for me or money. i told him its compensation for the emotional loss as we were not on a very smooth sail. they will or might give u a face but i choose to ignore that part totally.Read more
well my relationship with the husband isnt those sweet sailing type. it took me five years to realise what kind of person he is. laying hands on me time after time and overly egoisic. didnt really bothered to mention the whole story but thats what made me do it.
i wont say that he should give you money. but finances should be transparent to me. it's a family not an individual after all. and bills should be divided. lo things should be divided as well. however if hub is earning comfortably then he should pay for everything.Read more
Rental and utility is a lot of money! It sound like you have bad financial management, maybe you should keep track of your personal finances.
No. My husband doesn't give me any money. Yes including buying of LO things like Clothes, bottles and accessories. Diapers and Milk he handles the payment. So i feel that is fairRead more
Quite apart for the stuff for LO. Just curious why do you expect him to give you money or why do you think you are entitled?
Er what do you mean? If a Husband and Wife discussed and agree Wife should be sahm, of course Wife should get an allowance. What's more the poser of this question Husband doesn't even pay for the baby's items!
He doesn’t, but I am ok with it. I handle usual household and baby expenses while he takes on major expenses e.g. baby’s hospitalization, furnitures, etc. He also gives his folks monthly allowance.
You need to share cost of raising your child. He should contribute.
Same! Have the same kind of husband as well!!!!
Sometimes I do.
- Any one of you have a husband that has high ego? How do you all deal with. We are not able to communicate all the time, because he is always concerning about money and keep asking me to earn more money and keep upgrading myself. EVERY SINGLE DAY he will say this. I feel like our relationship is all about money etc. More over he does not fork up a single cents to pay for our Son groceries, each time I have asked him to give me money To pay for son’s diaper he will find excuses saying he is paying for some other stuffs. I couldn’t stand the way he always says that I am not able to educate our child, not able to communicate well and mixing with Low standard people that lead me no where. I feel like I don’t have any freedom to do my own things (Eg: I wanted to have some me time to watch show etc, he will said things like “ does this help you to improve your self, by watching this show do you think it can make you a better person”)... I couldn’t hold any Long in such relationship, and I cannot even communicate with him. ... I feel so pressured by him all the time...
Must have a very serious talk and emphasize that you cannot continue this way. You need to communicate very clearly this is not ok at all moving forward. Get him to realize that the relationship is in crisis.Anonymous
- hi, SAHM does your mil ask you for money every month? she ask me for money every month when hubby gets pay. Hubby bring home merely $1.5k.. We are staying with ILs. She never fails to ask me to give money go my FIL every single month even when I told her that we are paying bank loan of $300 every month. Plus Minus expenses, we really have nothing left. So my parents always help me out by giving me money and all. But my parents never ask money from me before even though they help us every month. I feel that it is unfair if I give my ILs but not my parents.. What do you think?
You mentioned u stay with the in-laws, but whose house does that belongs? If house are theirs n I think yr family shld help to pay something or give allowance. I believe yr own family can understand. If in-laws can help u looking after children, u can also look for job to help yr husband financially.Anonymous
- Hi all! Just a random rant. My husband hardly give me gifts, bring me to restaurant. To him, as long as he can be full, it does not matter if its cheap or expensive food. On my birthday, I was given a choice of either having flowers, a cake or a gift. I can only choose one of it. Now he said that he can’t stay any longer on his job, asked me not to spend his money. In fact, I hardly spend his money. I spend mostly using my own money. We argue mostly on money and he said I was not supportive to his decision. He said he got stress whenever I asked for a restaurant meal on valentine day or my birthday and a gift. I was just feeling myself so pathetic that not even my husband is appreciate what I did for him and still being so calculative to me. It made me felt that marrying him is a mistake.
1. It is very obvious that he is tight on money and doesn't know how to express it or he has told you but you didn't take it in. 2. If he is a frugal person before you married him then this is expected. There is no right or wrong but you can hint him that gifts doesn't need to be expensive. 3. May I ask if you have an expectation that man suppose to do this and that? more expectation = more disappointment. Did he expect a gift from you on valentine's day? If he doesn't why should you? enough said. 4. At the end of the day, marriage is a union between both parties. If money is an issue just work it out. Example : If 1 party want to buy an item that is very expensive.. then that party should pay for most of it. 5. learn from Ling Fernandez, she only ask for time.. her husband spend time with her... If she ask for gifts, her husband need to work harder and less time with her.Anonymous