Lack of sex for husbands

When women go through pregnancy, in some cases like mine, my wife massively decreases the need for sex, while I’ve extremely high sex drive. How do the husbands relieve the sex need and not looking for it outside of marriage while still supporting the wife’s pregnancy? I understand the whole responsibility part but sex is just a physical need to be met (in my case). I know there are ways to distract from having sex like exercising etc, but I’m sure the husbands just can’t go sexless for a year or so? Any advice or experiences to share? Would greatly appreciate!

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me and hub didnt have sex as regular as i am not into sex that much. average of only once every 2 mths. he is fine with it. as we have talked abt it on how uncomfortable i am. even before pregnancy , we only have sex once a mth as i dont feel comfortable and hub fully understand my situation.

3y ago

Omg I think I’m same as u! I’m not so into sex (I think it stems off from staying with in laws in the initial 2 plus years and there zero privacy at all since there’s always ppl at home all the time and they are awake till after midnight. And I can easily hear what’s outside the room and I don’t feel comfortable). We’ve moved out to our own place for about a year plus and we really seldom have sex. Only try when ovulating cos wana try for baby and yay I’m preg now! Plus my period was so irregular kind like 40-60days. So imagine how long we do once. Thank God he understands my situation and doesn’t force on me. Thankful for him too. But for this pregnancy, I dowan my hub to feel that deprived lah. So after 1st trimester I started to be more comfortable having sex but not frequent also lah. At least he won’t need to wait 1 year.

My situation is opposite of yours. Hubs think of it as not wanting to risk the idea of early labour for a temporary and short term gain. Maybe you can think of it in this perspective and in the meantime, your hand is your best friend.

3y ago

Hand is going to be best friend for a year I guess..

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Build the romantic vibe again. Women have sex with their feelings. Take her to dinner, surprise her with flowers, be extra sweet, get her in the mood, and you know what’s coming next ;)

Maybe get her to help u then? during my pregnancy, whenever my husband wants but im not in the mood I'll help him release, thats also another way of intimacy

3y ago

Ok. Thanks.

Have an open conversation with your Wife. Is she scared that baby will get harmed during sex? Or if it will induce labour ? Talk about your own needs too.

3y ago

Nope, nothing gotta do with harming of baby. Just not in the mood or uncomfortable for sex.

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During pregnancy, you can still have sex. You can enquiry with your gynae

3y ago

Hi! I know and we have cleared with the gynae. But wife doesn’t want to have sex. That’s the problem.

masterbate?

3y ago

Masturbate for a year? That’s sad.