MIL or infant care?

Right from the beginning, my MIL said that she don’t want to take care of my baby. Reason is that she was tired taking care of my SIL’s kid and she don’t want to lose her freedom/wants to go for holidays. She even told me and my hubby to have only 1 kid cos it’s a lot of hard work taking care of a baby/kid. Now that my maternity leave is ending and I have already looked for an infant care centre and put a deposit, my MIL suddenly said that she wants to take care of my baby until he turns 18 months then put in childcare. Should I take up her offer or still stick to infant care? TBH I am worried that my baby will fall sick often in infant care. He is also very active. But I am worried that my MIL will change her mind again. She is also taking care of my SIL’s kid (He falls sick often too.) Confused mummy here. What should I do?

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Hi, I think infant care is the best solution for you

better to send to infant care to avoid conflict with ur MIL. Initially i thought to let my MIL handle my newborn too but after that im so regret to do that. She got her own prefer methods n styles which sometimes u may not like it.

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infant care to avoid conflict

Infant care.

Perhaps infant care but allow your MIL to be involved in some way so she doesn't feel snubbed


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Ifc. I let my mil to take care of my baby until she turns 5 months then only send to ifc. As I think below 5 months is too young and I want my baby at least can roll over before sending to ifc.

Infant care better to avoid future conflicts. Now she say she can help take care but confirm in the long run will come conflicts. You mention she also taking care of another grandchild right? It will be even more tiring for her.

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Infant care to prevent future conflict too