Hi mommies. I want to share my situation with my husband's fam. Well, I came from an average fam, my parents are both based in SF Calif. My husband isn't that much. My problem is, my momma doesnt want me and my daughter to settle for what my husband can provide for us. For example, when I was about to give birth, my mother in law wanted to send me to a government hospital with the help of 4Ps im not actually sure if its a charity financial help from government as well. So my mom disagreed because she was afraid the staff might not treat and assist me well, so she offered that i give birth in a private hospital and she'll settle the bills and all. I was so ashamed because his family didn't really bother anymore to atleast give anything, they think that its totally fine because my parent can afford it. So, my parent let that pass. But right now, based on what I can observe, we are living together with my in laws, they are totally depending on me when I dont even have a job yet because I am breastfeeding. My husband needed to quit his job because he's job is too far he'd be staying there for almost whole month with just a few days days off, I decided that its hard if he'll leave me and our newborn alone with his family so I decided that we'll just put up a store business and the thing is my mom will support us with this business but cannot give it right away, because its tuition season of my sibs and things are coming up so we'll have to wait until she could give us capital. My in laws are totally just waiting for it and they dont say it but they practically telling me to ask my parents for my and my baby's necessities. Even the bill of our internet they are expecting us to pay it when they know that I and my husband is jobless so practically they want me to ask my parents for payment. What strategy would you suggest i should do? I am already trying my luck with online jobs for a start. I'm not sure i could totally live with them for a long time. Thank you.

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Hello mamshie. First I commend you for being strong for your family. Living with your in-laws is really tough since you are forced to get along with them even though you know they are becoming dependent to your resources. What I can advise to you is try to find another house where you can start building your own family. After all, may family na kayo. Anuman ang sabihin nila may maririnig at maririnig kang negative. Please remember that there can never be two Queen in a Kingdom. So try building your own kingdom. Mahirap po kasi makisama sa ibang bahay na maraming nakatira. Dadating ang point na pati needs ni baby hindu mo maprioritize kasi andaming kailangan sa tinitirhan nyo. Kaso it's one way of pakikisama db. You cannot eat what you wany without making sure na lahat ay makakatikim. Even the bills you are obliged to pay kapag wala silang maibayad and time will come na ikaw na lahat ang mag shoulder. Hindi naman yun karamutan but remember may family na po kayo na dapat unahin. Mahirap dumating sa point na pagdating sa family or anak natin wala na tayong magastos kasi naubos na sa ibang bagay.

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