Hi mommies. I want to share my situation with my husband's fam. Well, I came from an average fam, my parents are both based in SF Calif. My husband isn't that much. My problem is, my momma doesnt want me and my daughter to settle for what my husband can provide for us. For example, when I was about to give birth, my mother in law wanted to send me to a government hospital with the help of 4Ps im not actually sure if its a charity financial help from government as well. So my mom disagreed because she was afraid the staff might not treat and assist me well, so she offered that i give birth in a private hospital and she'll settle the bills and all. I was so ashamed because his family didn't really bother anymore to atleast give anything, they think that its totally fine because my parent can afford it. So, my parent let that pass. But right now, based on what I can observe, we are living together with my in laws, they are totally depending on me when I dont even have a job yet because I am breastfeeding. My husband needed to quit his job because he's job is too far he'd be staying there for almost whole month with just a few days days off, I decided that its hard if he'll leave me and our newborn alone with his family so I decided that we'll just put up a store business and the thing is my mom will support us with this business but cannot give it right away, because its tuition season of my sibs and things are coming up so we'll have to wait until she could give us capital. My in laws are totally just waiting for it and they dont say it but they practically telling me to ask my parents for my and my baby's necessities. Even the bill of our internet they are expecting us to pay it when they know that I and my husband is jobless so practically they want me to ask my parents for payment. What strategy would you suggest i should do? I am already trying my luck with online jobs for a start. I'm not sure i could totally live with them for a long time. Thank you.

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If i were you bumukod nalang kayo, hindi sa nag mamadamot pero, alam kasi nila na may nag papadala sayo kaya naasa sila sayo. Mahirap makisama sa inlaws, kung jobless sila at naasa lang sa mga anak nila. Somehow i can relate sa na fe feel mo. Yun lang may work naman asawa ko as a chef pero yung mother niya keep on asking money wala silang trabaho mag asawa to think na nasa 40's palang sila. So yep bitter ako about sa mga topics na ganyan about inlaws na pala asa. So ayon nga, kung binibigyan ka rin naman ng mom mo, bumukod nalang kayo, mag tayo ka ng business mo kaya niyo yan mag asawa. Kasi kung mag b business ka na nasa puder ka ng inlaws mo, baka hindi ka makaipon sa future ng anak niyo. Wag mo sana masamain sinabi ko :)

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