Im going crazy soon! LO is 15mo It's definitely good to have parents that dote and willing to take care LO. However i cant agree to their doings and sayings. Just because they think that they are elders so they are always right. Everything LO wants, they give in. They even gave nail buffer for LO to "play" and LO jus puts anything into the mouth. When i attempt to exchange with LO, LO cried like nobody biz and here comes the angel grandma. "Grandma sayang, ok give u give u" and immediately i was given the death stare and scoldings for making LO cry. Wth is this! What is right and what is wrong shouldnt we teach the kids properly? If nt, hw do they grow up being properly behaved? Parents kept scolding tt cannot scold the kids, cos they are still young. I totally cannot agree by giving in everything to him! Mum can shout and scold LO and made LO cried till voice hoarse yet telling me that i didnt teach LO properly and he is my son and he must be inherit my bad characters. And when i wanna be firm with LO, i gt scolded or being sarcastic for nothing by my parents being harsh on my LO and dono hw to behave like a parent!

First and foremost, relax and take a deep breath. Always remember, EVERYONE will start giving advice and their 10 cents worth. Smile and thank them. Weigh their decisions and if it makes sense then why not give it a try?Ultimately, you and your missus makes the final decisions. We always want the best for our kids but even OUR OWN decisions may not be the correct 1. Every household will have the ‘blame game’ ( even in my house). Our parents or in-laws must know their position. Have a chat with them and EXPLAIN that times are different and certain style has to be updated.( It will take them some time to understand) Be prepared to be the bad 1 for a few weeks. The elders will not be happy about you trying to explain to them but end of the day, You ARE the Father of the child. Be tactful when trying to explain to them too as the elderly are very sensitive when it comes to their grandchildren. Best time to do it is when everyone is having a meal together at a restaurant/Coffeeshop and NOT when you are upset. All the best and good luck bro.

grandparents tend to be protective. for me, if there can be other arrangements, go with it. if you have to seek their help, some things have to close one eye. but for stuff like for instance, nail buffer in mouth, what i did for similar situation is, i stop the action, i carry my LO in room. i still talk to her in simple form, let her cry and calm down. do a review again. she was like less than 1yo. she can understand me. then i talked to her grandparents on why i disallowed as it is a hazard plus unhygienic. i was firm in my position except that i take care of her myself mostly. perhaps this is the thing which is different from u. but.. be firm. express ur view. u r still the parent afterall. if not, arrange for alternate

just to share my experiences.. my #1 was taken care of by pil after I returned to work after ML, plus we were still staying with them at that time.. like u, I cannot agree with how my pil cares for my lo..end up my hubby & I decided that we are the parents and we sld have the final say so he told his parents "she (me) is the mother, she sld have ever last say".. things got better after that..well, pil forget sometimes but I'll tell my lo "I'm ur mother I say no means no..noone else can help u" (indirectly reminding my pil who's the boss)

in the first place, my mum was ok to take care of my bb but not anymore. she has health problems. i thought over, it's better for me to do so. because my mum's behaviour & character set a bad example to my bb!

it norm. maybe it also happen during your parent time where your grandparent also angel to you and scold your parent for everything to do to you. In future, you may be the one siding your child's child.

it's like this. So what i do, i be even firm. i take cane out. I said whoever tries to interfere. i cane you. & the person who interefere. sometimes we are the devils.

Grandparents tend to dote their grandkids. Would suggest you to bring your child to a quiet corner or your own room if any of such situation arises.

you are not alone. it's pretty normal. actually it's just the grandparents sickness lol. no matter what we do they will not be satisfied.

I will remove my kid from the situation, let him cry, and then explain, and distract with something else.