Maybe you should find a softer approach when you address the issue with him. It’s a sensitive time for both of you and the matter is very delicate.
Your husband sounds like he enjoys his family’s company and I empathise with you. My husband is also very close to his family and as the only child his mother especially clings onto him and can be tactless towards me sometimes. I’m close to my family but I really enjoy my personal space and I prefer having the freedom to cultivate my family unit without the influence of any of our parents. To me, that’s the crux of being an adult, to be more independent and less reliant on your ageing parents.
I realise it needs to be a compromise. I can’t only think about having my way but there are also moments when I have to put my foot down especially with an incoming baby. Your MIL will only think of her relationship with her son but your husband needs to be fair in his relationship with both you and his parents. It’s not an option for him to only prioritise his wife and you have to make peace with that in order to come up with a good solution. Whenever you feel like your feelings are not taken into consideration, let him know from a place of love. “I understand that with ____ and _____, you need to do ____ but when it comes to ____, I don’t like it. I need you to tell me what you are willing to do about it and where’s your capacity at. I can support you on _____, we can make arrangements for ______.”
Not in those exact words but whichever way is organic for both of you. He needs to feel that you care about what he’s going through and here’s the kicker, what his parents are going through, in order for him to feel motivated to put more thought into what you’re going through.
In the meantime, have faith that you also have the capacity to do this despite the challenges that comes with pregnancy. There’s definitely a lot of worries and anxieties but take it one day at a time. Prioritise your journey and transformation and take good care of yourself to the best of your ability. It’s okay to lose patience from time to time but always remember that it’s temporary and things will get better.
Feli