I need to rant it out.... My husband and my family members is not getting along very well.. my family members is very straightforward type and they tend to hurt my husband feeling. Especially my elder sister and her boyfriend, my husband just can't stand them and my husband have been avoiding them but still sometimes after a family meeting ~ Eg. Maybe my sister like to talk sarcastic towards my husband and say he is fat and she will laugh it off. I know she is kidding but my husband don't feel that way. He feel hurtful and will tend hold back all the feeling only to express it to me. My sister boyfriend will go directly to my husband and compared everything about him. My husband told me he is a the edge already. He feel like talking back to him and let them taste their own words how hurtful it can be. I myself can't stand his sister too. As she tend to indirectly saying alot of thing in front of my husband and she will act like very good which I feel so fake la. But I always trying to be fake back to her. The problem is my husband is staying with my family. And he will have to tolerate alot of stuff. We been quarrel alot of time over family issues. He just ask me what if I am the one staying at his house and have to tolerate. He say he just don't want me to keep siding my own family everytime when he vent his feeling out. And I hate it everytime we quarrel he will shout and want to leave the house. I am in my third trimester now and we still quarrel like that. I am tired. I can't ask my husband to tolerate if it was me in his position I sure cannot handle but I can't ask my family members to change their way of talking. I am so stuck here. Sorry for the long post.

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Sounds very similar to my case. Fat hubby, straightforward family and competition among in laws. My husband is also fat. My mum and sister like to "attack" him for that. I always protect him as being fat is not what he want. He need panadol after talking to my family (I must protect him also because he protect me very well in his family). Pity him.. He become fatter after stress with them. More gas accumulated in stomach. Competition among in laws is very common. My husband feel jealous when I talk good about my sisters husband and sometimes he will compared himself to them. I can see my sis husband comparing themselves to my husband too.. Haih. Men fight. I told my husband let it be healthy competition and don't affect family harmony. So he speak up and fight for himself in a humorous way. I can see the opponents attack him less nowadays. At the same time i'll show some signals to my sis and let her feel my unhappiness

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