I need to rant it out.... My husband and my family members is not getting along very well.. my family members is very straightforward type and they tend to hurt my husband feeling. Especially my elder sister and her boyfriend, my husband just can't stand them and my husband have been avoiding them but still sometimes after a family meeting ~ Eg. Maybe my sister like to talk sarcastic towards my husband and say he is fat and she will laugh it off. I know she is kidding but my husband don't feel that way. He feel hurtful and will tend hold back all the feeling only to express it to me. My sister boyfriend will go directly to my husband and compared everything about him. My husband told me he is a the edge already. He feel like talking back to him and let them taste their own words how hurtful it can be. I myself can't stand his sister too. As she tend to indirectly saying alot of thing in front of my husband and she will act like very good which I feel so fake la. But I always trying to be fake back to her. The problem is my husband is staying with my family. And he will have to tolerate alot of stuff. We been quarrel alot of time over family issues. He just ask me what if I am the one staying at his house and have to tolerate. He say he just don't want me to keep siding my own family everytime when he vent his feeling out. And I hate it everytime we quarrel he will shout and want to leave the house. I am in my third trimester now and we still quarrel like that. I am tired. I can't ask my husband to tolerate if it was me in his position I sure cannot handle but I can't ask my family members to change their way of talking. I am so stuck here. Sorry for the long post.

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I am opposite of you. My in law stay with me. All my hubby family member don't like me. They all view I treat his mother like maid. Actually I am not. My hubby doesn't side me. I respect them. My hubby is the kind mother is very important kind. Good and bad 。I prefer he side me and say good words on me. Rather than accuse me and make the relationship worsen

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i think you should talk to your sister about it. family should not be mocking another family member no matter what. another thing, just move out. rent a place. it gonna be a roller coaster or even worst when your baby is arrived. cant be keep on fighting in front of baby right? what ever it is.. stay strong mama and u are not alone :)

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I think u should stand up for your hb. Imagine yourself in his Shoes, if he didn't stand up for u how would u feel, tolerating is one thing the most important thing is to stand by n support ur spouse if ur hb knows that u attempted, u tried ur best to resolve the problem, he will tolerate the intolerance because of u

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Dear... I been thru this and right now I suffer the consequences of everything. If I could turn back time I'd shift into rented place before shifting to our flat. I would NEVER stay with my mum or his mum. U hv one advice fr me : move out or your marriage will suffer more, esp aft kid is born.

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Why must u quarrel with ur husband instead of scolding the people that is rude to him? As a wife u failed to standup n defend ur own husband. WHAT A LOSER. Ur husband didnt owe u guys a living and dosent deserve this treatment. He is someone else son.

Please take sometime to talk to your family members while your hubby is not around. Let them know of the situation. Don't let your hubby feel left out. Every family culture and way of talking is different. What we feel is funny might be insulting to another.

What your sister said, his boyfriend said, what your husband said.. bla bla.. WHAT HAVE YOU SAID TO DEFEND HIM? 🙄🙄🙄

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i'm in ur situation but the other way round. I will just answer my sister back. Have to be frank about it as you all are staying together at the moment.

Move out. Out of sight, out of mind. Better things to focus on

If possible, move out. Never easy to live with extended family members.