I feel you. On many occasions when I tell my husband off, he will just reply me “I am like that.”. But when I replied the same thing to him, he finds that im unreasonable??? And when I asked him, why he can reply me that way and when I do the same he feel offended, he told me “So you trying to take revenge now?”. After my kid, I don’t bother anymore. Waste of breath and saliva. Don’t depend on your husband, if he wants to help, help. Don’t make your blood pressure rise. It feels as thou you no longer have the rights to have your emotions once you have a kid right? Like they always forgot we are only human too.
Usually I will stop talking or arguing when in anger. I either just ignore him or go for exercise to release my anger. And tell myself anger only spoil my day and it only affected me but nothing to him/her. After cooling down or the next day, I will tell him what I want it to be, how it is supposed to do or how he’s supposed to behave or how I feel when he do that. And I will tell him my expectation. And I will tell him if he can’t exactly do as my expectation at least respect my feelings and me and to avoid doing it.
Stay strong, calm and positive. See if there is a way you can calmly and objectively talk this over with your spouse. Raising a child with a learning disability will be very difficult for any parent and will need the both of you to be supporting and understanding of each other. Is there a local support group you can join? Close family or friends you can have a F2F 1:1 talk about this? You are not alone. My very best wishes to you
Sorry mama. I feel you. For me I explain to my spouse that sometimes I need me time and time to be angry as well with no filters - and if I can’t be myself in my home then when can I ever be myself?
Hang in there mummy
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