My husband doesn’t want to touch me or help me get naturally induced
I’m at 39w3d & ftm. I’ve been trying everything I can to induce labour (ie raspberry tea, coconut, mile circuit, walks, curb walks, dates). All except for sex. I’ve even scheduled for induction at 40w0d because baby will estimate to be at 3.3kg by then. But I still want to avoid induction if possible due to 20% failure rate >> leading to emergency c-sect. He hasn’t touched me more then a month ago. And semen induction (research/doct says it’ll soften the cervix) is the only trick in the book I have yet to try. I’ve told him time and time again. But I can’t force him to still because of the nature of a human body. He said he’d try but all I see is an empty promise. He even said to me that he doesn’t know how to help me with naturally inducing, but I already explicitly told him it’s the only thing we haven’t tried (in the most gentlest way possible). And I’ve also tried asking him for sex in the most straightforward way too last week. What doesn’t help is that I know for sure that he has been getting off on his own in the toilet. Wasting away what could have helped me go into spontaneous labour. And it’s making me spiral. That he “Hates my body”, “He would rather do it alone”, “He hates my body so much that doesn’t want to help me induce labour”. I can even foresee that if the induction fails, my brain is going to be wired into thinking that its all because of him that I’m going to have a scar on me for the rest of my life. And that it will make me more ugly in his eyes. That I could have had the chance to have the spontaneous labour but my choice was ripped from me because of his “selfishness”. But despite it all, apart of me believes he is just scared of causing me discomfort and that maybe Im just overthinking things. #induce #firsttimemom #FTM #help
