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Is hurtful when you put in a lot of effort to make situation better. Saw a text from her to her brother. Say that she miss those time when they R young. My husband will bring her to shop around. She says she only wants the time with her brother. She doesn't want all of us together. Is so hurtful. To be honest, whn I just know her, I put a lot of effort for her. As the brother bought her up and I be more understanding. But the brother ask me to stop coz he says she won't be appreciate. As she only will see what she wants. She is a spoiled kid. No job at this age, doesn't want to accept people comment. And use things never put back to where it shall be etc. Tbh I quite fet up with her after my baby is born. I feel why will this kind of human exist. No job, do things very loud, when we ask her to lighter her movement, she will give one face, sick don't know how to auto, even sick also carry my baby. When baby is crying, coz that time she cry for milk after bathe. Then my MIL was changing for her and wanna pass to be to feed. But she wanna carry her. And keep comfort and ask her don't cry, then slowly walk into my room. I feel fet up when seeing this again. And she will jealous my baby who have everyone attention. Say the mother changed ady. Not as caring as last time. And sometimes I quite turn off when I see her. I don't know why too. I feel so terrible.

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Is she in her early 20s? mid 20s? Jobless or never work before? 😏 If I were you.. yes it’s hurt if she say those words but I wouldn’t mind / don’t really care if she jz want my brother to hang out alone. It’s her brother anyway. Infact I can spend w baby alone or bring back to own house. Peaceful. I would go only if there’s family gathering/events. Haha. Anyway you will get use to it if she jz want to hangs out with own brother from time to time. If she really wants you to be there, you will see some changes. It’s not necessary for me to always include with their outings. Perhaps she jz loves hanging w brother alone. She jz want e attention, let her be. If she’s sick, I will just bring back my baby. & let her know. I don’t want my baby to get affected. If she wants to carry sureeee when she’s fully recovered. Do things loud etc I will just keep remind it. I won’t put it in heart if she give a black face to me/us. * Infront pil , better not comment so much on hub’s family members * If her whole family knows her personality & characteristics n she will Never listen, or appreciate it. Only can keep on remind all these things. If her whole family can’t control her, I don’t think I am able to. & I’m focusing on my baby. Also, if really can’t take it. I will nag at my hubby, ask him to deal with her. Or I will bring my baby to my own house. She’s jealous of baby? Hmmm 😒😒 no comments really. I can’t force her how she feel. I wouldn’t be bothered anyway. Let her say what she wants in the house. It’s better ignore all these words. ignorance is bliss :)

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2y ago

She stop working for more then a yer ady. But according to her. She is finding job now. Ya. Thanks mummy.

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Honestly I think its better u keep your distance from her. She sounds like a toxic spoilt brat who craves attention with no consideration towards others. You don't have to declare war on her or anything like that but I think u do need to be more assertive about protecting your family from her. The part about her being sick and yet insisting on carrying baby? That's an absolute no-no. If your in laws cannot understand that, tell them next time baby is sick, they come up with the money to bring baby to PD or GP and the time and effort to nurse baby back to health. 😤 Your hubby also need to do his part to shield his wife and child! 👪 Cannot just be you trying to do it alone. If his sister keeps wanting him to go out alone with her, he needs to know where to draw the line. Editing comment after seeing your replies below. Looks like the whole family is aware of the situation. While a peaceful environment is definitely preferable, sometimes a person needs a wakeup call before he/she can mature. Is moving out of your in laws place a possibility for you and your hubby?

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Hihi, Replied below. In case you didn’t receive it. Btw don’t feel bad if u complaint about her. If she do/did smth bad or unreasonable or disrespectful towards anyone. I feel you should voice it out:) Hope you are feeling better after ranting it here:)

2y ago

Ya. Thanks mummy.