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Is hurtful when you put in a lot of effort to make situation better. Saw a text from her to her brother. Say that she miss those time when they R young. My husband will bring her to shop around. She says she only wants the time with her brother. She doesn't want all of us together. Is so hurtful. To be honest, whn I just know her, I put a lot of effort for her. As the brother bought her up and I be more understanding. But the brother ask me to stop coz he says she won't be appreciate. As she only will see what she wants. She is a spoiled kid. No job at this age, doesn't want to accept people comment. And use things never put back to where it shall be etc. Tbh I quite fet up with her after my baby is born. I feel why will this kind of human exist. No job, do things very loud, when we ask her to lighter her movement, she will give one face, sick don't know how to auto, even sick also carry my baby. When baby is crying, coz that time she cry for milk after bathe. Then my MIL was changing for her and wanna pass to be to feed. But she wanna carry her. And keep comfort and ask her don't cry, then slowly walk into my room. I feel fet up when seeing this again. And she will jealous my baby who have everyone attention. Say the mother changed ady. Not as caring as last time. And sometimes I quite turn off when I see her. I don't know why too. I feel so terrible.

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Is she in her early 20s? mid 20s? Jobless or never work before? 😏 If I were you.. yes it’s hurt if she say those words but I wouldn’t mind / don’t really care if she jz want my brother to hang out alone. It’s her brother anyway. Infact I can spend w baby alone or bring back to own house. Peaceful. I would go only if there’s family gathering/events. Haha. Anyway you will get use to it if she jz want to hangs out with own brother from time to time. If she really wants you to be there, you will see some changes. It’s not necessary for me to always include with their outings. Perhaps she jz loves hanging w brother alone. She jz want e attention, let her be. If she’s sick, I will just bring back my baby. & let her know. I don’t want my baby to get affected. If she wants to carry sureeee when she’s fully recovered. Do things loud etc I will just keep remind it. I won’t put it in heart if she give a black face to me/us. * Infront pil , better not comment so much on hub’s family members * If her whole family knows her personality & characteristics n she will Never listen, or appreciate it. Only can keep on remind all these things. If her whole family can’t control her, I don’t think I am able to. & I’m focusing on my baby. Also, if really can’t take it. I will nag at my hubby, ask him to deal with her. Or I will bring my baby to my own house. She’s jealous of baby? Hmmm 😒😒 no comments really. I can’t force her how she feel. I wouldn’t be bothered anyway. Let her say what she wants in the house. It’s better ignore all these words. ignorance is bliss :)

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4y ago

She stop working for more then a yer ady. But according to her. She is finding job now. Ya. Thanks mummy.