As a mother of 2 (a 5years old and a 4months), is it bad na mainggit ako na si hubby nagagawa nya lahat ng gusto nya, ako hindi?? I mean, tali ako sa bahay, everyday alaga magisa, swerte pa nga na mother ko naglalaba ng mga damit ng bata. Kaso yung feelng ko, di ko alam kung naiinggit ba ako, or whatever,kasi si hubby maghapon sa trabaho, paguwi aasikasuhin mo sa lahat plus aalis ulit hanggang madaling araw kasama barkada nya. Uuwi kung kelan nya gusto. Ni hindi ko makatuwang sa mga bata. Gustuhin ko man magwork na, di ko naman maasa at ayoko iasa sa mother ko na siya yung magalaga sa kids ko. Nagwowork din sya for herself. Matagal ko na rin gustong bumukod kami at matagal na rin kaming nakikitira dito sa mother ko, pero di naman natutuloy pagbukod namin. Naiistress ako sa pagiisip which is bad dahil nagpapabreastfeed ako. I need advice po to uplift my feelings. ?

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Have you tried talking to your husband about sharing some house responsibilities? Example kapag weekends may 1 hour syang bonding/playtime with the kids. Para you can relax kahit 15mins lang sa 1hour na yun. Or once a month you can go out for 2-3 hours to see your friends. Kung hindi man once a month maybe every 2 months or every quarter. Minsan kasi we need to explicitly say to our husbands what we need/want. Like sa case ako, I told my husband nung nagkababy kami na kapag weekends, if okay lang ba na 8am ako gumising kasi everyday ang aga ko gumising and late matulog kasi I have work tapos housechores pa. Para makabawi man lang kahit konti ng tulog. Pumayag naman sya. Simula nun kapag weekends, di ako guilty na late ako bumangon.

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Hi ma, same tayo, may 4yr old toddler and 4month old baby ako, and yes tlg nga naman pong nakakainggit at nkaka miss din ang outside world hehe, iniisip ko nalang na maging happy kc may chance aqng pag silbihan mga anak at asawa ko. At nasusubaybayan ko milestones ng mga anak ko. Kung bet mo lumabas pwede mo nmang sabihin kay mister na labas kaung pamilya. Share mo din sakanya yang nararamdaman mo na sana eh tinutulungan ka sa mga bata. Bka kc nakikita nya na kayang2 mo kaya hindi kna tinutulungan, or bka dika nagpapatulong. May iba kcng lalaki kung di mo pa kalabitin eh hindi gagalaw, walang kusa kumbaga. Hehe. Wag na po maistress, sayang ang breastmilk kung sakaling humina dhil sa stress hehe

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Grabe yang asawa mo.wla bang initiative yan?kung ako gagawin ko..prangkahan mo na sabihin na,pede bang tumulong ka sa akin and mag spend ka ng quality time sa anak mo,hindi ibig sabihin na ikw ang nagtatrabho pa senyorito kana pagdating d2 sa bahay. Sabhin mo rin na,trbho ko 24 oras wlang pahinga,on call lahat,at wla pang sweldo..tingnan lang natin hindi ma guilty yang asawa mo..dpt focus na sna xa sa inyu hindi yung puro barkada iniintindi,hindi xa binnata,take note may pamilya na xa at kayu yun..dpt maging reaponsable nmn xa..kainis yung ganitong mister oi..nanggigil ako..hehehe.pasenxa na po..pagsabihan nyu po aswa nyu.ang be open po sa kanya yung siteasyun po ninyu.

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Don't feel bad, sis. It's okay that you feel that way. You deserve a break din naman. Talk to your hubby about this. Tell him that you need some "me time" also and that taking care of the house and the family is just as hard as being employed. Why not ask your husband to watch over the kids every saturday afternoon so you could catch up with yout friends, go to the spa or something? He get to go out anytime he wants, you're only asking for a half day, once a week.. that would be a good deal for him. Even yayas have their day off. Plus he get to experience what it's like to be in your shoes, he might then understand what you're going through. :) ^

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I know kung gaano kahirap ang ginagawa mo everyday, pero ang makasama ang anak mo and makita ang milestones nya, sulit lahat ng pagod. Sorry, pero siguro iba-iba tayo ng personality para mainggit ka sa asawa mo kasi nasa bahay ka lagi. Ako, I work from home at ako pa nag-aalaga sa 2 kong anak. I have more than 1 job and halos walang tulog, hindi din ako nakakalabas with my friends. Pero sobrang saya ko sa naging decision ko kasi kasama ko mga anak ko.

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8y ago

Siguro po you have a good support system kaya ganun. for almost 6 years I've given up everything, previous job and getting along with friends for my kid, and I'm not sorry for it. siguro, naghahanap lang ako extra attention from my husband dahil he's almost with his friends after I gave birth to our second child, and the fact that he don't give time to be with them. 😔

I understand your situation. I suggest that you talk to your husband on what you’re going through. We cannot just sit and cry. You need to take care of yourself for your baby especially that you’re breastfeeding. There’s nobody that can help you except yourself and an open communication to your husband.

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