I don't think you can rush healing. Time is the key to healing, I believe. As long as you've alr went through counselling and know your mistakes, it's a good first step! Be patient, things will be better eventually. Good luck!
How is the counselling so far? Able to let them know the progress. As much as you want to get this recovered. Time is what your Wife need. Hope everything goes well, Jiayou!
It’s great to hear that you both are working on it. Healing is an everyday job so I would say give her time. Meanwhile, show her more love everyday. All is well! :)