Weekends are meant for family day, to look forward to. For me, I do not. As much as I want it to be happy, I'm not. Hubby always throws tantrum on weekends cus he jus want to slp, have peace, kids well behaved. But life is never perfect. I am tired. I wake up many times at night feeding my newborn, attending to him, while he sttn with my toddler. Yet he always shows a blackface, shouts, ignore me, rude to me, shout at my toddler when he misbehaves instead of talking nicely. On weekdays he works so I do not even expect him to help me with anything at night and let him slp. On weekends, when we go out, he just wants to faster go home n slp. And when toddler misbehaves he gets into a very nasty mood which last the whole day, sometimes it spans thru 2 weekends. Tat includes cold wars ignorance rudeness n tantrum throwing n blackface. When we finally reach hm, he scolds toddler to slp. Toddler doesn't. Toddler took quite some time to slp. He shouted. Toddler cried. I consoled toddler while attending to my newborn and told toddler in a nice manner to take a nap. He nap thereafter. Toddler n him finally sleeps. Or I shud say toddler finally sleeps since the hubby had alr slept and turn his back away ignoring us since the shouting episode. Baby cries I attended. Fed, changed diaper, cried, sooth to slp, still doesn't. Baby cried loudly but the man still asleep. I have yet to even close my eyes for barely 5mins. But there was Facebook log in and whatsapp last seen. He was awake. Didnt bother to help. Layed in bed. I cried. Why? Why can't I have jus a little help? It feels so lonely that I'm alone managing a newborn while the man happily sleeps his afternoon away and still complain he's tired. I've seen so many husbands of my friends being so nice, so patient so tolerant. Why isit that I always have to be walking on mines everyday and ensure that everytime is perfect? I'm so tired and sad. Are all husbands like this?

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Big hugs. My husband is like that too. He just scolds and hits when he is irritated, he doesn't show understanding of the kids' behaviours, and he plans around himself and not the kids. Also, he doesn't help me. He works restaurant shifts, so he gets his rest days on his off days. I work regular hours during the weekdays so my only off days are weekends, and it's spent looking after the kids myself (because my only in-laws are also men, and behave the same way!). It gets tiring, and I've gone into depressive episodes because of this. Now I try to psycho myself that, there's no point holding grudges with people like that. I try my best to do what's right, and I keep the kids closer to me. If he keeps up this behaviour, in future he cannot question the kids' reactions to him. He has to learn the consequences the hard way. By the way, no point comparing husbands and feeling envious, because our husbands are not going to change. But we can change ourselves, so just do your best within your means, and ignore your husband's childish behaviours. Meanwhile, rant to destress, or join a Mummy support group such as Mindful Mums. You can PM me also if you like. Big hugs!

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