Weekends are meant for family day, to look forward to. For me, I do not. As much as I want it to be happy, I'm not. Hubby always throws tantrum on weekends cus he jus want to slp, have peace, kids well behaved. But life is never perfect. I am tired. I wake up many times at night feeding my newborn, attending to him, while he sttn with my toddler. Yet he always shows a blackface, shouts, ignore me, rude to me, shout at my toddler when he misbehaves instead of talking nicely. On weekdays he works so I do not even expect him to help me with anything at night and let him slp. On weekends, when we go out, he just wants to faster go home n slp. And when toddler misbehaves he gets into a very nasty mood which last the whole day, sometimes it spans thru 2 weekends. Tat includes cold wars ignorance rudeness n tantrum throwing n blackface. When we finally reach hm, he scolds toddler to slp. Toddler doesn't. Toddler took quite some time to slp. He shouted. Toddler cried. I consoled toddler while attending to my newborn and told toddler in a nice manner to take a nap. He nap thereafter. Toddler n him finally sleeps. Or I shud say toddler finally sleeps since the hubby had alr slept and turn his back away ignoring us since the shouting episode. Baby cries I attended. Fed, changed diaper, cried, sooth to slp, still doesn't. Baby cried loudly but the man still asleep. I have yet to even close my eyes for barely 5mins. But there was Facebook log in and whatsapp last seen. He was awake. Didnt bother to help. Layed in bed. I cried. Why? Why can't I have jus a little help? It feels so lonely that I'm alone managing a newborn while the man happily sleeps his afternoon away and still complain he's tired. I've seen so many husbands of my friends being so nice, so patient so tolerant. Why isit that I always have to be walking on mines everyday and ensure that everytime is perfect? I'm so tired and sad. Are all husbands like this?

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My husband is like that too. Vent anger on my boy. He wants his nap means he will have to nap no matter what. He sleeps well sometimes double the amount that I get. I don't know if all men are like that but ours definitely is of the same. I always scold him that he only cares about himself the most and the best. He is so pampered and spoilt.

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Not all husbands are like that. I know a lot of loving and patients husbands out there too. It's just sad that your husband is like that. I believe this has already something to do with his personality that you can't totally change. Unless you feel and think that he doesn't love you anymore to treat you as such

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Not all men are like this la.. My Husband is ten times more patient than me! He can spend hours to coax our Son to zzz.. Spend hours to talk senses to our Daughter... Give n take la. I dun expect every weekend go out one as to me I prefer quality time spent together not quantity.

When we go out, my Husband will be the one carrying or pushing the stroller most of the time. During mealtime he will sit with my Son. Once we get home. Everything becomes my job. But well, if I asked he would help. Sometimes men kind of slow. We just have to "ask" nicely.

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not all hubby is like that.mine is super alaga to me and im so spoiled. maybe he has problem and he is just like that ugali that i dont like in men. or he just not love you.sorry for d word. u better talk to him heart to heart.

Get a babysitter babe. Price is from $9-12 an hour. We get a babysitter for 6 hours every weekend. So no stress for hubby and me and we can really enjoy.

Can't say all husband are like that. Maybe he is stressed out or too tired. What about asking him to go time off, or plan out family dates?

U r not alone. My Husband is like that too.