I was in the same position. I can only tahan 1 year plus. I cannot take it so we moved to rental. Best decision ever! Especially when you have your own baby. If youre ok financially, apply bto , then after flat selection, apply PPHS rental. Or theres such thing as public scheme rental.
Be very firm. No means no. What shes doing is already disrespecting you and that teaches your children to disrespect you as well. Pls tell your husband to advise her as well. And you need to tell your children that they have to follow you not their grandma.
Sit down and have a good talk with your husband. Or be firm and stern with your mil. Another way is to get rental flat from hdb. Have subsidy if you’re waiting for your new house. Check out hdb website for more details..
If you can’t voice out directly to her, your husband should do it (which he should have done it all along). Be stern, be firm even if they not happy.
perhaps best to move out if your husband cannot rein in his mother 😓