hi, SAHM does your mil ask you for money every month? she ask me for money every month when hubby gets pay. Hubby bring home merely $1.5k.. We are staying with ILs. She never fails to ask me to give money go my FIL every single month even when I told her that we are paying bank loan of $300 every month. Plus Minus expenses, we really have nothing left. So my parents always help me out by giving me money and all. But my parents never ask money from me before even though they help us every month. I feel that it is unfair if I give my ILs but not my parents.. What do you think?

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How much is she asking u Let her know ur situation Cos from how I see, u can’t save much at all U need to plan for kids education and your retirement That’s v unfair to u

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We can't avoid this. My in law use to ask $ from my husband every month, so I fix a figure and bank in their account. They will chase if $ is not credited on time 🤨

Yes, my in law does ask for money. But the weird thjng is they dont ask from their son but ask from us. I guess, tgey tot wife took all their son money

You are staying at their place. It will be nice gesture to give them some even like $50 and explain to them nicely of your situation.

Maybe she needs your input for the daily household expenses since you are staying together and assuming you are not paying rent.

I won't give to either sides. Like you said, you barely have enough. How to keep giving. Maybe just give token.

If they are not working, then they expect u to give right. If they are working, try to nego with them and discuss?

Shd have a talk with ILs or ask hubby to talk to them. They might not understand the financial strain.

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I usually settle with my parents on my own & leave it to my hb to settle with his own parents

Discuss with your husband on a better amount. So that you guys can manage.