IFC or MIL?

maybe can let her trial for a few days before u start with ifc to see how she can handle baby alone when u are at work.but from my experience, its quite difficult to handle baby if there are other household chores to be done. let her experience it, and also for u to see if you are comfortable... if not can just alternate between ifc and mil. maybe 3 days ifc and 2 days mil. ifc no need to send everyday. so ur mil also have time for herself, and if she finds a job, u still got slot for ifc. im currently also only sending my dg 3 times a week.

i would prefer MIL cos its someone i can trust fully without worrying at work. However, i suggest you to think twice cos initially my MIL told me she could handle and ended up she can't so i have to rush to find a maid (cos no aval IFC, ALL FULL) It was very frustrating as I have to rush things out. Maybe advice ur MIL tell her she can still choose to help pick n send baby if she wants. fyi, my MIL is a Housewife. she couldnt handle house chores, cooking etc cos handling my baby is too overwhelming.

I prefer MIL is because baby immune system not like adult, previously I thinking putting my elder boy to IFC is because my MIL is mid 60, but she say she is ok to take care, so I try for a mth (only hse work I do on the weekend), so far she is ok until 18 mths I send my boy to PG. After all is your decision whether which is good for your child and your MIL and also depend how is your relationship with your MIL.

I think you should let your baby try IFC first. If he cannot get used to it or keep falling sick, you can then withdraw and let your MIL take careZ For now, perhaps your MIL can use this time to rest, take a break, go for some courses to upgrade her skills and look for a new job since she is only in her 50s.

In my opinion, I would go ahead with infant care just in case MIL has other plans now that she’s not working. She can still help by sending/fetching your LO on some days. At least you don’t have to worry about getting another placement in another childcare center.

I would prefer ifc to be honest. Because if u want to let mil take care, be prepared to have conflicts/quarrel sooner or later over baby issue. This is something unavoidable. Afterall their method of taking care is definetly diff from our generation.

It depends on whether u want ur baby to grow up in a home/family envt or a school envt. From what i read, u would prefer a sch envt. U can try telling ur mil the benefits of ifc and convince her. Afterall, its ur own child, and u v the final say.

perhaps can put ifc till a certain timing then your mil picks him up earlier..that way she gets to spend time with him plus rest too I feel babies will learn more in ifc as compared to home too 🙂

IFC is better. Maybe you can get MIL to pick your child. At least she will not be tired looking after and doing household chores and cooking. Have a discussion with your hubby too.

ifc space is hard to come by. can put ifc MIL fetch half day. win win situation as bb also needs time to settle down ur MIL is also not overwhelm