Just need to rant~ I just had a quarrel with my husband. I am in my late pregnancy and we went for a walk with our dog. He is very strict to our dog so when he say no he means no and the dog today did not behave and he smack his backside and I don't feel good, I just keep quiet. When we reached home, he come to me and explain "the dog should be discipline when they are naughty" and he know I am kinda of not very happy about it. I told him" he used to be a nice attitude guy when I know him not the angry side of him." And he feel offended and say" now u regret married me already har? Now think I am very bad already is it? Then he say back to me u also used to be very chio why now like this lei?" Then he say "when people say it back to you, you will feel sad right. That how I feel when u say I used to be a nice attitude guy. What if next time baby is born and he is naughty you going to give it all to him and pamper him until he is like a king?" I reply him" is useless talking to you." I know what I say trigger him but I really did not know the impact until he say it back to me. I am a sensitive person but not when I talk. He ask me "am I feeling sad or angry because I did not talk." I say "no". Then he fall asleep and I can't stop crying and feeling sad. So I wake him up and say" I feel so hurt about the last time chio now why like this" he then wake up and say "do u mean I have a bad attitude when u say it to me?" I reply "no, I don't mean it" then he says "that's right I also never mean it" he then say " you hor, say people can la, when people say you back you cannot take it hor." I don't know is it hormones or what I just feel weird and sad and can't stop crying. Sorry for the long post.

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Oh dear I want to cry reading this post. I feel you so much. ☹️ I’m in my 2nd trimester and have not gained more weight than I already am. I am plus sized by the way. But there was one time we were randomly talking about clothes and he said “Go and buy maternity clothes lah.” So I said it’s not easy cause my body size is not proportionate. He said “Just stop wearing those peplum/baby doll type of tops. Makes you look even more bigger.” Then I said, “You so bad, say your wife like that.” And he casually just said, “Don’t deny, isn’t it true? You think you’re slim?” I took it straight to the heart man. Straight to the heart. It pierced me so much I wanted to cry but because I am so good at putting up a facade, I held back my tears and bit on my tongue. Sometimes we don’t realise the words that come out of our mouths can hurt others. Especially now that the hormones are raging, we are extra sensitive to everything. What I can say is probably we just have to take it like a big girl, brush it off and screw them under our breath. No I mean try not to take it to heart, cause they’re just plain and useless remarks. One day they will realise the sacrifices we made for them, just probably, probably these pea-brained idiots don’t realise it yet. We got you, Mummy. You’re not alone with a salty Husband. 💪🏻

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