My husband never shown his bad temperedness during our dating days. 
Aft we got married, he started shouting and he even laid his hands on me even when i was pregnant. Of course we sought counsellor advice and he was warned not to use his hands again. 
He didnt up till now. Go see a counsellor with him and usually men have big egos hence just say you would like him to be there and such.
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