Mummies pls advice me. I am relli veri depressed. I had a shortgun marriage. Kena pregnant before I marry hubby. I was thinking to abort or maybe have the baby but without him, but he convince me to get married cause he both love me and the baby. But the other day I was on his Facebook and I saw his message to his old fren where he say that I was pregnant, so marry me, bo pian. He say he actually want to oredi break up, but I got pregnant. So he just do the right thing. I am very hurt, because I never force him and he was the one kept bugging me to get married. I feel like just throw the divorce paper on his face. Any advice?

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I totally agree with what some of the mums have said. It was probably "bro" talk. Guys sometimes like to talk cock with one another and he may want to come across as macho. Does he treat you well? Do you love him? Do you feel that he loves you? If yes to all, please just let this pass and work on delivering a happy and healthy baby.

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totally true. as a man i can testify - it is often regarded as embarrassing to admit to your other guy friends that you love your wife. so sometimes we talk s*** to look tough. you need to evaluate for yourself whether he truly loves you and not based on a single comment like this one

There are times that the Husband maybe just say that because he wants to "save his face", ego! If he really treat you well and love you than it could be that he's just trying to show off to his friends. Think carefully before throwing in the papers. The child would grow better with a complete family.

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Most of the times what men told there guy friends r not true. Just wanna make themselves 'look good' in front of their 'brothers' have a heart to heart talk with him, tell him how u feel. Talk things out & make things better. Your baby is still young, think for the kid before making decisions

Sometimes hubby says this kind of thing just to save face or joking. One of my colleague who married an older woman said to me : "yeah, i kanna cheated by her" but of coz you know he said it jokingly and i know quite well that he loves his wife. So just talk the things out with your hubbie.

u want to throw divorce papers, and ur husband want break up????!!! what about kid in-between???!!! you are responsible for baby birth, it ur duty to care kid, i will not say comprise, but think well before taking decision easy to break, but difficult to attach.

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Sometimes msg doesn't really show what he thinking... mayb when he typing the word 'bo bian' but he is smiling happily with love. Just a word. Most important is how he treat u in daily... Did he concern on u? I'm sure u will know and feel if he really serious on u.

Do you want to perhaps speak to him abt it? I feel sometimes guys may not speak the full truth to their friends because they want to look good. Maybe that’s not really what he meant. After all you have to give it to him that he is responsible.

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Personally I feel sometimes men talk might not be 100% truth, at most time include 90% pride in it. So I don't think you really need to take in heart. Shotgun marriage or not, doesn't matter unless it matters to u.

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Do talk it out with your husband. Although u do not encourage divorce or separation, there's really no point in holding on to a loveless marriage , the child suffers the most. It's better to part on amicable terms.