You're holding the key in our own hands. You actually have the choice either to stay and prolong the agony or to leave and enjoy the peace of mind you rightfully deserves. The Bible gives us an effective strategy in handling this mess:
1. A man and woman will LEAVE their parents and be one. So technically you must leave and start your own family.
2. Whatever justifications you may cite, it will not eradicate the fact that your husband must look for a job. He must provide for your needs. You made mentioned of the fact that his workplace is quite far; you can actually transfer to a location close to his workplace. When you allow him to provide for your family, you actually spare him of depression and low self esteem as this made him feel better about himself.
3. While it is good to receive financial support from your parents occasionally, it much better to stand on your own. You will be amazed on how the Lord will provide your needs if you are dependent on Him primarily.
4. Our in-laws might have different perspective than ours which might brought about by differences in academic and economic background, they still deserve our love, respect and understanding. For sure, they become part of our lives for a reason. God bless you. May God works in that area as you continue to put your trust in Him.
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