Hi mommies. I want to share my situation with my husband's fam. Well, I came from an average fam, my parents are both based in SF Calif. My husband isn't that much. My problem is, my momma doesnt want me and my daughter to settle for what my husband can provide for us. For example, when I was about to give birth, my mother in law wanted to send me to a government hospital with the help of 4Ps im not actually sure if its a charity financial help from government as well. So my mom disagreed because she was afraid the staff might not treat and assist me well, so she offered that i give birth in a private hospital and she'll settle the bills and all. I was so ashamed because his family didn't really bother anymore to atleast give anything, they think that its totally fine because my parent can afford it. So, my parent let that pass. But right now, based on what I can observe, we are living together with my in laws, they are totally depending on me when I dont even have a job yet because I am breastfeeding. My husband needed to quit his job because he's job is too far he'd be staying there for almost whole month with just a few days days off, I decided that its hard if he'll leave me and our newborn alone with his family so I decided that we'll just put up a store business and the thing is my mom will support us with this business but cannot give it right away, because its tuition season of my sibs and things are coming up so we'll have to wait until she could give us capital. My in laws are totally just waiting for it and they dont say it but they practically telling me to ask my parents for my and my baby's necessities. Even the bill of our internet they are expecting us to pay it when they know that I and my husband is jobless so practically they want me to ask my parents for payment. What strategy would you suggest i should do? I am already trying my luck with online jobs for a start. I'm not sure i could totally live with them for a long time. Thank you.

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You're holding the key in our own hands. You actually have the choice either to stay and prolong the agony or to leave and enjoy the peace of mind you rightfully deserves. The Bible gives us an effective strategy in handling this mess: 1. A man and woman will LEAVE their parents and be one. So technically you must leave and start your own family. 2. Whatever justifications you may cite, it will not eradicate the fact that your husband must look for a job. He must provide for your needs. You made mentioned of the fact that his workplace is quite far; you can actually transfer to a location close to his workplace. When you allow him to provide for your family, you actually spare him of depression and low self esteem as this made him feel better about himself. 3. While it is good to receive financial support from your parents occasionally, it much better to stand on your own. You will be amazed on how the Lord will provide your needs if you are dependent on Him primarily. 4. Our in-laws might have different perspective than ours which might brought about by differences in academic and economic background, they still deserve our love, respect and understanding. For sure, they become part of our lives for a reason. God bless you. May God works in that area as you continue to put your trust in Him.

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