My mil thinks she can only handle her son and whole house. She only knows his likes and dislikes. And she does all the work in home. She washes his son clothes, does kitchen work, everything. My husband says m not doing anything behaving as a guest. I too feel like that. But the fact is she is not giving chance for me. Even if I want to take anything, she only knows where it is. But my husband says my mom is getting old, so u take care all of us. How do I handle this sitn. How 'll i make him understand that she is not giving chance? My husband keeps on saying that u didn't even making a cup of tea for me. Sometimes I feel happy that I don want to do any work. But sometimes I feel m staying in this house as guest. Really I don't feel like my home.

It's obvious tht ur husband can't see ur dilemma or is not shown by his mom. You need to do tasks in front of him. It's not possible tht whole day each and every thing is done by her while u r sitting. So find what you can do and deliberately do it in front of ur husband. Like if he says tht u can't even make tea, then even if his mom has given him tea, u still make another and make him drink it. The surpriseing issue is tht you mom in law doesn't say anything but your husband does. So do everything double and make him eat it or drink it. If his mom irons a shirt he has to wear, u iron another and make him wear that. And same with other stuff. Another thing is do all the work u need to do and watch quietly what your mom in law says about it. That way it will be obvious who is the instigators. Also keep in mind that even if u do all this, chances are tht your husband will enjoy his mom's efforts for him more bcoz he's so used to it. So please keep a balanced attitude and a positive mindset.