My mil thinks she can only handle her son and whole house. She only knows his likes and dislikes. And she does all the work in home. She washes his son clothes, does kitchen work, everything. My husband says m not doing anything behaving as a guest. I too feel like that. But the fact is she is not giving chance for me. Even if I want to take anything, she only knows where it is. But my husband says my mom is getting old, so u take care all of us. How do I handle this sitn. How 'll i make him understand that she is not giving chance? My husband keeps on saying that u didn't even making a cup of tea for me. Sometimes I feel happy that I don want to do any work. But sometimes I feel m staying in this house as guest. Really I don't feel like my home.

Women are generally controlling since they've done everything for their kids their whole life so giving up control for her is going to be very difficult. You have to be very sweet and not show impatience or that they are being unfair with you. Get your husband and his mother together and simply suggest that you want to take on responsibilities and household chores because mother is getting old. Divide the tasks infront of your husband and make sure your mother in law agrees to it. Don't say that mother in law doesn't let you work when talking about this. And in future if she again tries to take over your tasks you could talk to your husband about it and tell him that maybe she will listen to him more. Do not complain about it! You really need your husband to help you to change your mother in law's habits.