My in-laws are very insecure. They are always sulking about my husband not giving attention to them, whereas he is a good son. It stresses him and ultimately us. Also if I make efforts to be in regular touch with them, they get too interfering. What can I do?

insecurity is basic human rights...sorry if that put u off a bit but if u think about it, isn't it practically all age groups and relationships that show some level of insecurity!!. and when it comes to parental insecurity, that is a totally different discussion altogether. u need to understand that it's not just insecurity that they feel...they feel it's their right to feel that way. just think...all their lives they decided every teensy tiny thing for ur husband..who by the way is still a 2yr old in their eyes....and now suddenly it's a reversal...he has a family to support and also he has to support those who supported him all this while.. giving attention to them and how much to do that depends on how they are and how much do they envision attention to be...if they are practical parents they will see that he has a lot to juggle on. if not, then your husband needs to designate certain days of the week or 1day of the week to spend a few hours with them.he needs to sit them down and in a calm and loving way explain to them about first how much he loves them and wants to care for them. help them see realistically how much of his time goes where all....decide amicably what all he can reasonably do to help them remove these irrational fears like he can decide with them if he calls them once a day and speaks to them or as mentioned above, spend a few hours a week or take them out for a drive once in a while. these are just suggestions. if u brainstorm then ideas are plenty. if they get too nosy in your home affairs then pls don't mind that. they are just concerned parents who want to feel useful. u r doing an excellent job in keeping in touch with them. tht in itself is considered wonderful for them as they understand that u r caring for them. they just can't help it in being interfering as u said, bcoz thts the way they r showing how much u mean to them and how much they appreciate ur concern for them. just continue doing what u can for them. each smile tht comes from ur talking to them is a blessing tht will someday overflow in ur life for good....

It is indeed a very common scenario in Indian households. Having said that, there cannot ever be a common solution applicable to all, because different people react differently in a certain instance. Balance can be achieved. A little attention and a little space enough to not get them habituated so that they end up complaining. At that age, elders behave like kids and demand more attention and complain more often. Very rarely we see parents understanding and adjusting and letting go. It's ok. Do not get angry, and try and be as empathatic as possible. Rest cribs you will have to ignore and let go else everything will start bothering you, ruining your peace. One last thing to keep in mind- you cannot change anyone at that age. Both parties need to see a middle way out. All the best!

Hey Chetna, looks like we can never have enough in-laws issues, right? Having experienced similar issues, I think you should try and talk directly to them. I mean, it is a little awkward, but nothing helps more than a direct and honest discussion. Ask them why they feel ignored or what, according to them, your husband should do to make them feel cared for. About you being in touch and them getting too interfering, do you think they get too involved? Sometimes, it could also stem from a genuine concern for your family. Do try and talk to them and I hope it helps.

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hi, the best is to leave it to ur hubby n his parents to deal with this, u can give him a hear but i suggest dont interfere or try being overtly friendly, let them figure it out.