MIL issue

I'm sahm and raise my daughter alone (my parents live oversea). Mil will come by once or twice a week to visit. On the weekend I want it to be our family time but she always want to go to where ever we go. I didn't really like that because she will do thing I don't like. If I tell her , dont let my daughter watch tv (1.5 years old), she will say never mind la. If I tell her, dont give her snack because its soon time for lunch, she will secretly give and my daughter is difficult eater. So now problem is husband and I had very big arguement about her tagging along with us. We visit his parents every weekend for a meal. But that seem not enough. Today we had a big fight over this issue and he said "I should ask you if you like my mother first before we marry!". It broke my heart hearing that. What should I do?

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Hi, I believe that your husband say that out of anger please don't get too upset about it. Your husband must be in a very bad position too stuck between the wife and mum. I think he also hope that he can please the 2 women of his life. May be you can have a chat with your husband when both of you cool down. Explain to him your point. Try to take a step back to think that isn't it good to allow your daughter to spent more time with elderly so that when she grow older, she will learn how to respect elderly? Sometimes elder just want to spend more time with the family.

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Home Just Mums im sahm raise daughter alone parents live oversea mil come once twice week visit weekend i want family time but always want go where ever go i didnt really like that because thing i dont like if i tell dont let daughter watch tv 15 years old say never mind la if i tell dont give snack because soon time lunch secretly give daughter difficult eater now problem husband i had very big arguement about tagging along with visit parents every