Feel disappointed

I just want to find a place to share my feeling.. My husband is so addicted to his mobile phone been watching tik tok or playing games every day & every hr. Usual day after work I will rush back to buy dinner, pump bm, fetch my lo from infant care then change his clothes & make him sleep. After that I need to wash all the bottles & container, take my shower then have my dinner. My husband is more busier so I understand I can settle all these before he come back home. Everyday he come back home will just sit down & start using his phone to watch tik tok/fb or play games. Even having dinner also he only looking at his phone. I know he is stress & tired after work need to relax himself so I don’t stop him. Sometime I do feel tired too having the need to feed my lo during midnight (sometime he will feed lo too), wake up earlier to pump milk before work..but all these is what a mum should do I won’t blame anyone. What I’m disappointed was even during weekend which I think that’s the time we can spend more time with our lo. But he is still looking at his phone more than looking at our lo. When lo is crying for milk he will just continue playing his game & ignore his crying. At that time I really feel like walking to him & throw his phone away. I know my work is less stressful than his & I don’t earn as much as him. But having bb is what he always want & even ask for 2nd one. But I don’t think we are suitable to have a 2nd one with this situation. I don’t know isit that i’m overreact or what..I’ve been keeping all this in my heart for a long time & just want to say out..

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Hi mummy, you are not overreacting. I have the same thoughts and told my husband I’m not sure if I can handle another child if he doesn’t help out more. My husband tries to help but most of the time, mothers have to take a larger share of the load of chores. :( and I’ll end up doing everything if I don’t show that I’m struggling or ask for help. Most of his free time, my hubby is also on his phone or watching shows to destress. However, he asks me to tell him what to do when I need his help and he takes action 70% of the time and some times, there is indefinite delay. Whenever he plans to have leisure time with his friends, I will also plan a facial or massage on another day or outing with my friends so he gets to spend time taking care of LO and I get time off and feel more recharged/balanced. Hang in there, mummy. I do wonder if dads play a bigger role when kids are a bit older and can play and are less dependent. I keep reminding myself that when the time comes, LO and hubby shall go out for cycling / run / swim and I shall just remove myself from that to rest a bit. 😅

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