I need to rant it out.... My husband and my family members is not getting along very well.. my family members is very straightforward type and they tend to hurt my husband feeling. Especially my elder sister and her boyfriend, my husband just can't stand them and my husband have been avoiding them but still sometimes after a family meeting ~ Eg. Maybe my sister like to talk sarcastic towards my husband and say he is fat and she will laugh it off. I know she is kidding but my husband don't feel that way. He feel hurtful and will tend hold back all the feeling only to express it to me. My sister boyfriend will go directly to my husband and compared everything about him. My husband told me he is a the edge already. He feel like talking back to him and let them taste their own words how hurtful it can be. I myself can't stand his sister too. As she tend to indirectly saying alot of thing in front of my husband and she will act like very good which I feel so fake la. But I always trying to be fake back to her. The problem is my husband is staying with my family. And he will have to tolerate alot of stuff. We been quarrel alot of time over family issues. He just ask me what if I am the one staying at his house and have to tolerate. He say he just don't want me to keep siding my own family everytime when he vent his feeling out. And I hate it everytime we quarrel he will shout and want to leave the house. I am in my third trimester now and we still quarrel like that. I am tired. I can't ask my husband to tolerate if it was me in his position I sure cannot handle but I can't ask my family members to change their way of talking. I am so stuck here. Sorry for the long post.

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Wrong to quarrel, you and your husband. Husband and Wife should be United at all times, in times of Bliss and Tough times, that's a part of what Marriage is about (Recall your Marriage Vows) Your family members = You need to take charge and defend your husband. If it is your husband's family members = Your husband need to take charge and defend you. If you can't change your family members, plan to shift out immediately Or soonest possible and further away from your family member house, this is to put an end to this nonsense for your husband. Full stop. Your husband has been very nice to exercise restraint and not talk back to your family members in sacarstic manner and he is doing this because he respects you and your family members but your family members are TOO much. Please be mindful that a man's ego and pride cannot be hurt too many times, otherwise one day his temper will explode big time (There is a limit to one's patience, with frustration and repeated sacarsm attacking him building up daily, weekly, monthly, etc....)

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