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I always thought i had no issues with my in laws until now that the baby is born, like seriously we only brought the baby back for 2 days & problems are surfacing... My mil wanted to do the confinement for me so my mum didnt help, ended up she doesnt know what to do at all lol, just cook extra fish soup for me that's all, then watch her drama series the whole day, i still have to do washing of my bowls, milk bottles & breast pump parts etc. Then when I said I wanted to do the herbal shower, she said u will get arthritis if u shower everyday during confinement, so cannot. So her concept is I can touch cold water to do the washing the whole day but cannot have a hot shower??!! Then the breastfeeding part and taking care of baby, I have short nipples so baby having a difficult time latching on, mostly need to express and bottle feed, she kept saying on that & saying I'm not feeding baby enough so baby is crying etc, her food all focused on food that makes the mum produce more milk, but the thing I have plenty, I get engorged very easily and I just need time to express it out, my mil just cannot wait, asking if I'm done pumping every few min! We brought baby to the hospital for jaundice and the nurse took baby temperature say got slight fever, she & my fil immediately blamed me & my husband for having the air con on in our room that's why baby catch a cold! Yes we did on the air con, but we set it at freaking 28 degrees so it's comfy for the baby! Then another nurse took a second reading & there weren't any fever at all, she said the first reading was high because my mil overwrapped the baby so it's super warm!!! Swaddle + wrapped another double layed blanket over the baby! Then they just kept quiet & didnt say anything, no apologies no nothing. After a while still come back to say we shouldnt on the air con so cold... OMG I just hope it's my mum doing the confinement for me or if I can go back to my parent's place during this period! Cant wait for our own house to be ready!!!

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Wow this sound pretty bad! Have a chat with your husband. And if all else fails talk to your mum and and ask her to come help to allow your mil some rest...

Super Mum

You can also get confinement food if that is really the case. At least there's the herbal soups and red date tea that would help

Super Mum

Kudos on your patience with PIL. I personally know I won’t be able to manage the same so I’m glad my PIL are not in SG.

Super Mum

Hugs!! This is truly the worst nightmare! Did you tell your husband about all these things that happened?

Yes, he's been trying to tell them subtlely and explainingly the situation to them...

Hug hug... My mil will doing confinement for me too. Worry the same thing happened on me...

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Hmm.. My mil will be helping me during confinement too.. Finger cross all goes well 😂

Thanks for sharing you should just communicate with you you’ll feel better afterwards

Jy.. 😔

So sorry to hear this Dear. You should really have a serious talk with your husband and tell him exactly what you are going through and what needs to be done. You need to take care of your health.

Hi, This really sounds bad. Hugs1 Please talk to your husband in very details about this. I hope you have some solution soon

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