My husband does not like helping to take care of our toddler (just look after or play with him) for long. About an hour plus to two hours of playing or just watching him he will get frustrated. He complained that maid takes way too long to bathe and eat her meals (about 30 mins each) cause she does not want to take care of our toddler and that she only carries our toddler to sleep so that she can carry him and watch tv. And is asking that I tell my Mom and maid to sleep train him (let him cry it out as currently he cannot take naps unless being carried, we tried letting him nap without carrying and he can cry until he chokes and coughs, even after he had fallen asleep by carrying, we put him on bed, he will wake up almost immediately) and train him to play by himself in the play yard without needing someone to be around (... say that we can monitor via cam. Seriously what is he saying? Our toddler is just slightly over one year old! What if he falls? Husband says how hard can he falls. He is in the play yard with a mat at the bottom...). I know we should really try to sleep train him but it's so hard to heard him cries for more than 30 mins and still unable to sleep. Just ranting cos he does not lives with us and of cos can make such remarks.

Hi there, So sorry to hear what you are going through. A child is a blessing and the final piece of puzzle to complete a FAMILY. It seem to me that your Husband is a very busy person but unfortunately, that is not a good reason to be acting like that. Do sit down and have a chat with him. If he thinks that The Maid is lazy, ask his opinion to recommend a better maid. Ask him to contribute ideas to how you can sleeptrain your child. Sometimes the tone of our voice(Husband/Wife) makes a lot of difference in a conversation. Sleep training a LO is not easy. Shanayah was the same too... she would wake up as soon as you put her down. What I did was to lay with her while telling her stories in bed. You can also try other methods from Supernanny(UK) on YouTube. Her methods are really good.

your husband doesn't live with you? Well. just ignore then. Sorry to say but sometimes husband does not have the patience when it comes to child care. They just want it fast and quick. Moreover your child is only merely 1 year old plus? I don't see why there is a rush in training him to sleep on his own. Some child requires a longer period of time. You can slowly try to train but don't make it too traumatic for the child. Hang in there mummy. i know its not easy with a husband who doesn't seem to understand

Oh dear, sorry you have to go through that :( I'd say that you have to just let it go in and out, ignore what he says because you are his mother and you know him best - such things will only be understood when he lives together and spends an entire day looking after his child alone.

Not easy for husband to understand. Maybe try to get your toddler to stay with him for one night so he can try to manage his way? Probably he MAY have a better alternative to his sleep training?

I find that what your husband said is too irresponsible and insensitive it's a baby for goodness sake.

Men-husband that seem to be in a world of their own. Who doesn't live with you?