MIL MIL....!!!!!

So frustrated, keep saying we don't know to to take care of our own child (20mths) recently he just just recovered from a virus. Is that the phelgm went back to his stomach as children at his age don't know how to spilt out which caused him to vomit went they eat or drink. So in the MOTN, he will ask for milk after that he will cough till vomit and mess up the bedsheet. So end up we have to keep changing it quite frequent recently which you will actually know when he is going to vomit...thats part one...just yesterday midnight he actually pooped which both my hub and I is in unaware of it. Till this morning when my hub carried him out from his cot and it stain his bedsheet. After all the change, my hub place my son on our bed for his milk, and not long he cough again and vomit abit on our bed. Settled my son, and my hub went to his mom's room with my son, as we were rushing out to work, so have to pass my son to my MIL. So I guessed my hub told her what going on a moment ago... Pooped ....bedsheet.....milk...vomit...blah blah blah. After that she started saying that we don't know how to be a parents, didn't even know our son has pooped in the MOTN (as he is sleeping so soundly as past few day he keep waking up.) Should wake up and check his diaper... She tried to put him to sleep but he refused, so she let him watched television which is still 7 plus in the morning. Till I told my hub is this what you want (as he want to limit his screen time) after that he told his mom not to let our child watch to much. There she goes again...(refering to my hub)she said :"tv last you in preschool also keep watching tv. Said us putting our son in sch is wrong, he didn even socialize, everytime I went to fetch him, saw his teacher bring him from a corner sitting down there playing alone, in the morning the teacher just put him alone to play himself...don't let him watch then you teach him is it? Let him watch he can learn new things...." Feel to irritating, so frustrated, so angry. As if our parenting styles have to follow her...

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Honestly speaking, because you guys have to go to work, you can’t really control what’s going on at home after sch between her and LO. Even if you guys were to flare at her, she’s just gonna be “then don’t ask me to take care”. I would ask my husband to sternly let her know the “to do’s” and the “not to do’s” then ending with if you want the best for your grandchild (in short guilt trip her lol) and be firm on it. Explain to her that in the morning, teachers needs to settle the kids coming in before they gather as a group to start the day. Even adults needs time to socialise let alone toddlers. For the sceeentime, perhaps propose to her how about letting him hear instead of fully watching? Alternatively for the cot and your bed, you can get some waterproof mats to put under your LO so you don’t have to keep changing especially in the MOTN.

understand ur feelings totally... baby is sick already, yet still have to listen to sarcastic remarks.. i dun have a good experience when my MIL helped to take care too.. they old ppl always prefer to use their own methods to take care... and will always think that they are right since their children have grown up already... buay tahan... but just have to take it or leave it... hope u find ur way out of this difficult situation.. im glad my life is currently more peaceful hahaha.. anyway, my baby got brochitis previously when abt 3 mths old.. i have a PD doc can recommend to you cos is recommended by my colleague previously and she is the one who treated my baby from brochitis

Honestly speaking, your MIL is not obligated to look after YOUR child. Not standing at anyone’s side, but standing at the logical point of view. She’s not your maid that she has to follow your way . It’s already very lucky that you have your mil to look after your kid. Don’t like her way and her comment then don’t pass your kid to her… If you can’t stand it, look for alternative care solution. Or hire a helper. Then your helper must listen to you and must do things your way.

Agree with the other comment. You don’t really get the “right” to be angry at the screen time cause I’m sure you know, that entertaining a toddler is damn taxing. I don’t know how old and well is your MIL but I won’t be too stern on the screen time. I will only request that only certain content is allowed and that my child is at least how far away from the TV, and what is the max volume. Hope your child recovers soon!