Negative responses when revealing gender

Honestly quite disappointed by some elders' immediate responses when we told them we are expecting a girl (first child). So my question is: Anyone faced similar comments? Pls share! **Most replies here are advocating 'just ignore', 'don't be bothered'. 😂 Haha, but my question is NOT 'Should I ignore them?' Of course I smiled and ignored them out of courtesy! But still bothered, and wondering if any mummy is in the same boat, to feel less alone and less frustrated in this pretty uncommon situation! And yes of cos hub & I will love our girl all the same.** Instead of congratulatory words, these were their responses. FIL went "Oh, 不要紧 la (never mind)." Uh, what is there even to mind in the very first place? He's never talked about the pregnancy since then, no small talk, no concern. Nothing. SIL went, "Oh, what did Father say about you having a girl?" the very moment we told her we are having a girl. I guess we all knew FIL would rather have a grandson for his first grandchild. Aunt went, "Oh...next one can have a boy." Wow. As if we didn't do a good job this time but oh we can try to excel next time. Huh(?!)

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Super Mum

I think it’s sad that gender bias still exists. But you know what? You’re going to have a beautiful little girl, and she’s going to be your precious baby forever. That’s what matters! Whether she gets the approval of grandpa or not, what matters most is mummy’s and daddy’s love for her. So please ignore the negative comments. And you know what? I wouldn’t be surprised if one day, your FIL becomes the most doting grandparent to your daughter too, because he’s going to see that she’s one of the best things that’s happened to the family! I have 2 little girls, and my FIL loves them to bits :)

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5y ago

congratulations on having a baby girl! look forward and don't look back anymore, enjoy picking up girly stuff, live your life for yourself. I also have my stories abt my family, my MIL has ignored my pregnancy totally because she didn't like her son marrying off. everyone has their issues and disorders. I hope u can heal with support of your spouse and move on happily. sending u good vibes and peace