Anything wrong of me for telling this to my child?

I don’t have the same experience as u but then I would say similar? I’m not sure but this occurs to my ‘MIL’ and ‘FIL’ okay here’s the story. Ever since I got pregnant, my own dad and mom has been supporting me, buying me tonics and all. Instead of my ‘PIL’ they haven’t been concerned about how I’m doing or how baby is doing they didn’t buy any tonic or food for me or for my baby inside my womb. And when I mentioned it to my husband he sides his mom and says it’s because I don’t stay with his parents, hello? Not even a text or a call to ask how am I doing? And although I don’t wish for my daughter to call them nana or poppy(grandma or grandpa) but I will have to bite my tongue and let them enjoy their grandchild. Because I don’t Wan her to grow up to be you know being disrespectful to her elders. Thou I would explain to her on how I feel and how were they when she was in my womb. (That’s when she’s a little bit older and can understand a little better of the world).

I feel like there is a better approach to distance physical contact from the grandpa to your daughter. But what’s done is done and it will take some time to change your daughter’s mentality after growing years of emphasizing to her. If I were you, I’ll talk to her to explain that regardless of how grandpa is, basic respect is the least anyone should do. I also think that how you tell her not to stay too close to her grandpa plays a part in the choice of words she used in “grandpa is dirty” and I’m sure you’ll have your ways to prevent the same ugly situation from happening in future. Hang in there! =)

No matter what he does, he is still your fil and your child’s grandfather. That’s his life. You as daughter in law u need to respect cos he’s your elderly. Did you ask if he has sickness? You cannot just assume and jump into conclusions. It’s very bad and unhealthy to do such things. And u should educate your child & yourself to respect others and especially elderly. Kids learn everything from home, especially parents. U don’t have to lie but u don’t have to tell her the truth either. Use gentle and kind words please. U wouldn’t want your child growing up to be rude.

your father in law may be wrong. you haven't even know if he has STD and u alr assumed he has it. Even if he has it, u have to educate your child and yourself. STD doesn't pass ard like flu bug. its ok if u forbid your child to go near to him. but never teach your child to say hurtful words or anything disrespectful. what you teach is what your child will turn out to be.

we knows our fathers but the kids doesnt nid to know or show rudeness in future. they see how we treated and soon, she will follow. Perhaps, after all that u can 'project' her grandpa good side as well. Somehow u just remind her to be caution with grandpa if hes around but respect is still respect.

Will he try to be close to your daughter? If he doesn't, I think it's still alright. I won't find the need to explain to my daughter about not being close to him. But if he does, I will do the same way you did.

It's nothing to be shameful about as if it's a FACT. Better to be safe than sorry. In fact, HE is to be ashamed of his own actions and responsible of his own actions. His actions do not deserve to be respected.

I'll avoid being too close with father in law. Just visit for a while and leave as fast as I could... And be there only for reunion, else would stay away

if I were you I won't use dirty. I will use grandpa is sick. sick is better than dirty. it really sound bad.

I am quite direct with my daughter and I would tell her the situation as is.