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Have anyone dislike mil? I have been trying my best to control my temper towards her... during my confinement, she keep forcing me to go back work after 3 mths of ML. Then keep forcing me to put my lo to infant care. Dun even let me rest during my confinement. Til i break down and keep crying everyday. 2nd mth of my ML she has been going to work everyday even though there is a period of time, i felt very giddy. So now i injured my back as she asked me to climb up to wash the aircon. So when my hub told her i injured my back, she ignore and asked me to pack the house. As if i am moving to my new place tml. What can i do? Going to breakdown soon!

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Me. Since day 1 of marriage lots of issue even though never stay together.. purposely move far away b4 getting preg. Coz they moved near us after we got our previous house.. and i refused to meet them when I'm preg coz I want to stay happy throughout my 9month of pregnancy. My lo only meets them once a week or once every fortnight and dun like my mil to carry... but my lo can let any other ppl to carry. Just weird. She kept on telling my hub to ask me to bf for as long as possible coz her daughter did so for 2 years... but gynae and pd said 7to 8 months bf will be good enough coz bb need other nutrients from other source of food.. she also said lots of things which I find it rubbish and did not follow. I just tell her straight then "oh doc say this and that" and then she shut her mouth..

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oh yes.. me. my MIL wants me to find a job so she can take care of my lo by herself and she cried when i said i wanted to put my baby in infant care. she bosses me around telling me how my baby behave etc as if she is the mother. she always snatch my baby to the point. my baby doesnt smile or play with me, but her face instantly brighten up when my MIL comes to her. is a very heart breaking feeling, and my husband cant even help me without my MIL making a big fuss and giving black face and make things difficult for my husband. we ever tried to voice up to mil but she complain to her husband in the end i got an intervention by them. she doesnt even want me to move out. and she's never happy when i go over to my parents place. how not to dislike

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My mum helping me during my confinement. Mil just come and visit once a week/ when she is free. My mil keeps ask me to rest on bed, she is fine. After woman giving birth I think we are not in a mood due to hormone reason or still in pain. I still find it annoying and things don't goes well even or maybe things goes smoothly. Especially husband, don't understand and think that we want to be like this. Is good that you move to new place, stay away from her for few weeks. You need a good rest. Maternity leave is yours, not hers.

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Upset & irritated! I feel you. Stand firm, don't have to be rude. If you think you need the rest, just tell her firmly that you have injured, still in pain, you can't do anything. Not that we want to be nasty to our MIL but at times we really need to be firm & tell them what we can or cannot do. Talk to your husband also. Get him to support you. Jia you!

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5y ago

Husband tell her off already. But to her, i always complain about her -.-

My mil doesn't stay with me but whenever she visit me she'll tell me to do this and that which, according to her, is "beneficial" to my LO. When I don't wanna listen to her anymore, I'll say my LO is tired and need to rest and then walk to my room. I'll also signal my husband to go over.

Sigh mil... She always call when I'm feeding my LO. Then she calls my husband ask why I never pick up her call. I mean I not purposely don't pick up, Hello... I feeding my LO 🤦‍♀️

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I would totally ignore but acknowledged her out of respect, your husband need to come in if this get further but big congrats on moving out soon and importantly, focus on baby

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😨Your mil so bad. I feel so sad for you. I think I sure quarrel with her if I were you. Did your husband knows about all these? Should let him know and get him to talk to her.

5y ago

Yes, he always will say her. But she doesnt listen and will still continue the next day. Feel so sick and tired

hug hug. I'm not dilike my mil but just don't like her even we r not staying together. But my nightmare maybe coming soon as she will be helping me during my confinement. Hais

5y ago

U too. Jia you.

Hi, That is very sad to hear. I would suggest please talk straight to your husband about how stressful and painful this whole situation is for you