Any of your hubby asking alot from a stay at home wife?

First I must confessed my spouse is a traditional, super MCP man & loves face a lot, should have extinct in this era. He really expected me as a stay home as wife to cook regularly, iron all his working clothes, maintain house clean & clutter-free, must send & fetch child to & from school daily and still must treat him very nice at home. He doesn’t take care of our child since birth until now. And even when baby & I are out with a lot of heavy groceries & manoveuring a stroller, for several times he would also told me to go home by taking mrt ourselves instead of driving to pick us up. I told him clearly I am deadbeat & depleted all my energy after waking up many times in the night pacifying back to sleep now and then but he doesn’t bother to understand me. Everyday he worked until after 12am then come home. I don’t know what does he treat me as? In this era, he’s still lives in such times expecting a married woman to be like his late mum so capable & independent? For example: 1) Never even babywear like many other dads did since birth until toddler at all. 2) Almost rarely pat or coax our child before sleep. 3) Never once ever wake up in the night to coax child back to sleep. He slept like a dead pig until morning wake go work very late. 4) Never ever wash toilet bowls. 5) Often roar like crazy & throw bad tempers at me & child. 6) Hit me with his elbows very forcefully until my arms blue black when he was the one asking me to wake him up in the morning no matter what happens. 7) Slammed doors very hard when angry. Hit fist on the wall to vent his anger on us. Something is wrong with him but nobody knows as everyone outside thought he’s a super nice hubby and family man. I have no one to talk to as he stopped me from telling anyone, including his family members & relatives. What should I do?

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Leave that man sis. Dont worry, baby custody will be yours. SG law protect women. Take picture of your bruises, print and keep it for evidence to fight in court. Your child need a happy mum and a healthy environment to grow up. Husband can find, but child cannot. Stay strong mummy. Call police if he gets more aggressive.

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First i feel sorry for you and that i really see how patient you are. Have you talk to your husband about this? Tbh, his expectations is too much. By taking care of your child alone and cooking is already much. Yet alone cleaning, groceries, ironing and other stuff to do. I hope you both can sit and talk thru this.

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4y ago

Is it SOS hotline? I tried twice but no useful at all. My hubby simply don’t want to see my face and fully ignored me when I talked to him directly. All I knew he wanted a divorce and now maybe finding $$ to do it.

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Please please please reach out to someone you know and trust. He sounds like he is abusing you both physically and emotionally, cutting you off from others, and that is never ok. Is moving out an option? Live with your side of the family? If he can do that to you, I don't see any love in this relationship.

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If he hits you again, no matter whether there’s bruising or not, you should warn him never to do that. And threaten to report to the police. If not he will get worse and take it for granted that it’s ok to treat you like this!!

Tell it anyway? In this day and age, there’s no place for MCPs. We are as independent and capable as men, and we also have earning power. Tell him he can be the house husband and you earn the moo lah.

Do not waste time on such man. Habits are hard to break. Days will become years and you will be wondering why hadn't you left him earlier.

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Talk to him and hope he understand. Try not to compare as that will make your life miserable

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Make sure, he pays ur monthly maintenance as high as what u earn when u were in the workforce.

4y ago

I think its quite obvious now you have to leave him. Get child's custody and ensure he does not escape paying for alimony for you and child. Good luck!

This is unacceptable to me. Mayb u can try to talk to him

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Omg.. I'll walk out on him.. that might be his fear...